Bobbi7 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 My so called guy with benefits has been ignoring me. I do see that he still has his dating profile up, but logs on to it like once a week now. When we were hooking up-he would always go online like every day, but now its like once every other week. Which never bothered me for some reason. Anyway, I saw that he's been bringing a female guest at these meetup events. And I just saw a picture of them on facebook. But if he had a serious girlfriend most likely he would delete his online dating profile, right? Or he got bored with me. It sucks that in these situations, they never come forward. Makes me mad.
preraph Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 When you're FWB, you're not supposed to care. If you care, you're not FWB and let yourself get emotions about it, which is usually what happens and why FWB seldom works out. 1
Jessie1231 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yes it's safe to say he got bored with you and is dating someone. And he didn't owe you an explanation since you weren't in a relationship, so not sure what you think he did wrong.
El Pallasso Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 You're a f*ck buddy. Nothing more. Nothing less. Stop stalking him.
KatZee Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It sucks that in these situations, they never come forward. Makes me mad. Why are you mad? Dude has zero obligation to come forward. You're just booty. That's essentially the dynamic of a FWB situation. No strings, no emotions, no connection, no obligation, no drama. It's merely convenience. He's probably dating this girl and that's why he's gone ghost on you.
ASG Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 When you're FWB, you're not supposed to care. If you care, you're not FWB and let yourself get emotions about it, which is usually what happens and why FWB seldom works out. Well... no. I tend to care, mostly because it means my sex outlet is gone! But that's about the extent of it... I would definitely be bummed (and have been) if a FWB ended things, in whatever way, when I was still interested in more sex!!! I just wouldn't dwell on it too long. Anyway, OP, yes, he seems to be dating someone else. Move on and find another boy toy!
ExpatInItaly Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yes, seems that he's dating someone now. On to the next for you!
Author Bobbi7 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Yeah, but if he's dating someone, why would his dating profile still be active??? He can't have a serious girlfriend if he still logs on to it once in awhile.
scorpiogirl Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yeah, but if he's dating someone, why would his dating profile still be active??? He can't have a serious girlfriend if he still logs on to it once in awhile. Who cares? He's not dating you. You agreed to be fwb ( right?) so you don't have girlfriend rights. It's not your business because you didn't require anything besides sec from him.
KatZee Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yeah, but if he's dating someone, why would his dating profile still be active??? He can't have a serious girlfriend if he still logs on to it once in awhile. Sure he can. Maybe it's not yet serious or 100% official. He's free to do whatever it is he wants until he's certain and locks it down.
h0000 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I would get angry too. And those who say you are not supposed to get emotional, oh please..we aint saint here. However there is nothing you can do and we can't answer what he is doing with her. Yeah maybe he is dating her but so what..at one stage he was Fu*king you too. Maybe she was another FWB or something.
Jessie1231 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yeah, but if he's dating someone, why would his dating profile still be active??? He can't have a serious girlfriend if he still logs on to it once in awhile. Maybe they aren't exclusive. Maybe they are but he's just a bad boyfriend. Either way, the important thing to know is that he's not interested in you so you have to move on.
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