Sunyata Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 (edited) I just ask since I want to know how to address this feeling generally. I still keep semi-regular contact with my ex and even though I know we shouldn't be together, when she talks about getting a crush on another guy it really hurts me. This is a feeling she deserves to have, and IMO it is possessive for me to sort of feel all hurt about it. Realistically, even if I were in a relationship, my girlfriend would have the right to "like" other guys - and this would be completely natural. I shouldn't expect to be the only guy in the world that is allowed to make a girl feel certain ways. It's just hard because like, I used to be her guy... she was all into me. And it's hard to sort of have that illusion smashed, and now have her falling for other guys. Oh well. Edited May 12, 2015 by Sunyata
Conners Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 If you WERE in a relationship it's not normal or accepted for another guy to make your girlfriend feel a certain way beyond physical attraction actually. However, it's your ex girlfriend. She can do whatever the hell she likes?
Author Sunyata Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 If you WERE in a relationship it's not normal or accepted for another guy to make your girlfriend feel a certain way beyond physical attraction actually. However, it's your ex girlfriend. She can do whatever the hell she likes? Obviously. A lot of girls are insecure or you know, a different man or different type of man can still make them feel good. I don't think it's realistic to think that these will not be dynamics in relationships and am interested in how to handle them in a mature way.
Conners Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Obviously. A lot of girls are insecure or you know, a different man or different type of man can still make them feel good. I don't think it's realistic to think that these will not be dynamics in relationships and am interested in how to handle them in a mature way. Well if a different man was making them "Feel good" then I would break up with them. Insecurity is not an excuse. I think you need to work on your own insecurity to be honest.
organizedchaos Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I just ask since I want to know how to address this feeling generally. I still keep semi-regular contact with my ex and even though I know we shouldn't be together, when she talks about getting a crush on another guy it really hurts me. This is a feeling she deserves to have, and IMO it is possessive for me to sort of feel all hurt about it. Realistically, even if I were in a relationship, my girlfriend would have the right to "like" other guys - and this would be completely natural. I shouldn't expect to be the only guy in the world that is allowed to make a girl feel certain ways. It's just hard because like, I used to be her guy... she was all into me. And it's hard to sort of have that illusion smashed, and now have her falling for other guys. Oh well. Ok, so if it still hurts, I have a question for you. Why are you still in contact with your ex at all?
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