thanaton Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I've tried everything, bars, clubs, flea markets, etc. They are always with and talking with their friends, I have yet to see one by herself that I can approach. I don't really know what to do. I can't do any active stuff because I have a hurt foot. Where can I find a girl that's by herself that I can approach and meet?
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Just say hello to the group. Then ask the one you like to dance. 1
Phoe Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I've tried everything, bars, clubs, flea markets, etc. They are always with and talking with their friends, I have yet to see one by herself that I can approach. I don't really know what to do. I can't do any active stuff because I have a hurt foot. Where can I find a girl that's by herself that I can approach and meet? You never see a girl out by herself? Really? I'm always out by myself. I'm about to head out by myself right now. People must be so astonished, seeing me out by myself, thinking "Oh, this poor girl is out by herself, she must be lost..." There are plenty of women out by themselves. One place I will suggest you NOT look, is bars and clubs. While some women do go alone (I've done it), it is less common, because it has the potential to not be so safe for a woman. Try the local bookstore perhaps. I'd bet money there's a woman there right now, alone, just browsing. 2
MissBee Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I've tried everything, bars, clubs, flea markets, etc. They are always with and talking with their friends, I have yet to see one by herself that I can approach. I don't really know what to do. I can't do any active stuff because I have a hurt foot. Where can I find a girl that's by herself that I can approach and meet? A woman doesn't have to be by herself for you to talk to her at a bar or club. Most women don't go to bars or clubs alone, yet they still pick up guys or guys pick them up. Unless your friend gives you signals that she isn't into the guy, most friends won't cock block and will be happy for their friend if a guy starts chatting her up and will slowly leave the two alone. That's how it's worked for me and my friends. Like donnivain said, if she's with a group and you want to dance, say hello to the friends then ask her, or if she's at the bar, say hello, then chat her up. Just be polite to everyone else and then focus on the one you're interested in. But definitely at parties and clubs most women aren't going to be alone.
preraph Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Why do you want her to be alone?? That makes no sense. I mean, she isn't going to stop having friends even if she becomes your bf, so you may as well get used to talking to her when other people are around. Like Enigma said, it's much better to be open and talkative with a group and not just try to zero in on one girl because what if there's another girl in the group who is friendlier to you? If you talk to the whole group and then just be sure and ask the ones you like best some questions to know them a little, then you decide if there's one you want to ask out.
Author thanaton Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Why do you want her to be alone?? That makes no sense. I mean, she isn't going to stop having friends even if she becomes your bf, so you may as well get used to talking to her when other people are around. Like Enigma said, it's much better to be open and talkative with a group and not just try to zero in on one girl because what if there's another girl in the group who is friendlier to you? If you talk to the whole group and then just be sure and ask the ones you like best some questions to know them a little, then you decide if there's one you want to ask out. I probably could chat up a single girl but because of my inexperience chatting up a whole group is beyond my level of expertise, I am introverted.
preraph Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Then you need to go to dances and ask girls to dance and get more comfortable, or join some sport that has men and women, something stupid like bowling or softball, just to meet people. I'll tell you that women are not comfortable with a guy trying to separate them from the herd. It's basic instinct because even though in your case it may be innocent, it is a very basic predatory act that crosses a lot of species going way back! I think you'd be better off just working on being social with men and women and get used to groups of them because that's your best bet for becoming at ease and also for expanding your social circle where you might meet someone. If you start sneaking around watching someone waiting for an opening, chances are they will see you coming even when they've never met your eyes and start evading. Women have finely tuned instincts for this stuff. So work on being widely social. Just because you're introverted doesn't mean you can't choose to push your envelope. 1
dgf Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I've tried everything, bars, clubs, flea markets, etc. They are always with and talking with their friends, I have yet to see one by herself that I can approach. I don't really know what to do. I can't do any active stuff because I have a hurt foot. Where can I find a girl that's by herself that I can approach and meet? Be hot, attractive and charming. If you aren't be single.
dgf Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 So you quit before you even try. That is the typical behavior of the perpetually single dude these days. Like it's going to make a difference. ever tried to get into a conversation with a group of ladies? unless you're insanely charming you'll be shut out.
dgf Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Then you need to go to dances and ask girls to dance and get more comfortable, or join some sport that has men and women, something stupid like bowling or softball, just to meet people. I'll tell you that women are not comfortable with a guy trying to separate them from the herd. It's basic instinct because even though in your case it may be innocent, it is a very basic predatory act that crosses a lot of species going way back! I think you'd be better off just working on being social with men and women and get used to groups of them because that's your best bet for becoming at ease and also for expanding your social circle where you might meet someone. If you start sneaking around watching someone waiting for an opening, chances are they will see you coming even when they've never met your eyes and start evading. Women have finely tuned instincts for this stuff. So work on being widely social. Just because you're introverted doesn't mean you can't choose to push your envelope. Yeah right predatory. But you all expect guys to approach. But if he joins a sports league or hobby and is interest in a lady there she'll get angry because she's there to play sports.
dgf Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yes, I have. Many times, in fact. You don't need to be "insanely charming" to have a conversation with people. Then you are charming. Some guys naturally have it.
LookAtThisPOst Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Most women would prefer to stay at home in isolation on a Sat. night if they are aware of an event, but cannot get at least ONE female friend to go with them. You never see a girl out by herself? Really? I'm always out by myself. I'm about to head out by myself right now. People must be so astonished, seeing me out by myself, thinking "Oh, this poor girl is out by herself, she must be lost..." There are plenty of women out by themselves. One place I will suggest you NOT look, is bars and clubs. While some women do go alone (I've done it), it is less common, because it has the potential to not be so safe for a woman. Try the local bookstore perhaps. I'd bet money there's a woman there right now, alone, just browsing.
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