elliecoffee Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 After my last post which was about him texting me and then asking me out, well here's what happened. Nothing. We made plans, yes, but nothing happened. I didn't give it too much thought, I thought he was busy and we kept seeing each other at the gym and everything was pretty much normal. Hugs, flirting and even jealous display. There was this guy kinda hitting on me and he noticed it. He got jealous, he got quiet, upset and when we were training together, he started bashing this other guy. When he saw that I wasn't into this other guy, he went back to the caring, flirting, hugger guy. Still, he hadn't asked about us going out or anything and by that time I just thought he was playing or just not interested. So I stopped texting him and going out of my way to say hi. When he noticed, he sent me a text asking me if I still cared for him. I replied 'Nope, you're just not into me' and he started to avoid me. We went no contact for 2 days and then he texted me again 'Hey you looked pretty today bla bla bla bla bla bla I'd love seeing you tomorrow bla bla bla bla' and when he was sure I wasn't mad, he was there again with me at the gym. Texting at night, I sent this 'That's why I like you I just want to hug you' he didn't reply until the next morning 'Yeah I'd love that hug'. After this, he was the same guy but I felt him a little bit tense. And I don't know I was wondering A LOT of things AND I decided to check his Facebook. I noticed I was blocked from his wall but his birthday post from las year were still there. I noticed one girl posted on his wall 'I love you hun happy birthday' and he replied 'I love you too'. Long story short: he has a girlfriend and has been living with her for two years. I wasn't planing on telling him, I was just going to take my distance. That happened on friday. By sunday I was wondering if I wasn't jumping to conclusions and I decided to go for a run to clear my head. Guess who I ran into? Him, his girlfriend and even the dog. They were holding hands and the moment he saw me, he let go of her hand and went to play with the dog or I don't know, he played dumb honestly. The girl noticed it of course, she stared at me and when I passed by, he did say hi 'Hi, beautiful' with such a big smile, all in front of her and I just nodded and kept running. He didn't hold her hand again. I just feel everything that happened was all in my head. Maybe he was just extremely friendly and I misread everything. But he was the one asking for my number, flirting, texting was mutual ...But he knew I mean, I did text him 'You're not into me' how can you not get that? You live, you learn I guess.
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Sorry that happened to you but at least you know that he has a GF now.
smackie9 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Now you know why he didn't ask you on a date. Remember this lesson......if it doesn't feel right, that's because it's not. He was having an emotional affair with you...stepping out of the boundaries of his relationship to flirt with you for attention. It's obvious he is too much of a coward admit he wants out of his relationship, and it too scared to leave it. You are not seeing things, he is into you, but knew it couldn't go any further than what it was. It's sucks yes, but at least you know to ditch him before you get too invested.
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