geronimo Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Hey guys, Been a while since I posted. Its going to be about 6 months NC and 6.5 months since my ex BU with me. Long story short, we were both eachothers first loves, first relationship etc etc and were together for about 5 years. She used the excuse that she's breaking up with me due to her family not being ok with my religion. I found out soon after the BU that she had started dealing with another guy and was dating him soon after (to her benefit he is the same religion as her). The only contact I have had with her since going NC was once in Jan when i had to undergo an unexpected surgery and on my bday where she sent me a text. Anyways her and I had always told eachother since the beginning of the relationship that no matter what, if we are together or not that we would meet up 5 years down the road on our anniversary, and we discussed it while breaking up that we would still meet up. However back then I never thought she would do what she did. I'm not 100% sure if she is still with the other guy but she hasn't reached out to me at all, not sure if she is waiting for us to meet on our anniversary or just cuz shes happy in her new relationship and doesn't care to reach out (she is a very prideful person also). I am doing alot better than I was before, however I am not over her. I still wish this breakup never happened, because we worked really well together (wouldn't have been together for 5 years if we didnt) but I'm sure this happened because she wanted to see what else is out there (she's 20, im 23). So our "anniversary" is coming up and ever since I found out that she started dating someone else so soon after we broke up, I told myself I wouldn't have any contact with her unless she contacted me first. My friends have also told me not to go, but now I'm not so sure. I do want to see her again, I do still miss her at times and what we had.
hunk Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 She's not waiting to meet on your anniversary, she's not thinking about your anniversary, she's not thinking about you. She's thinking about her new boyfriend while she's in bed with him and they're telling eachother they love eachother. This is reality man. She's done with you, and you're still sitting here thinking about whether or not she's thinking about your anniversary, after you've been apart for 6 months. Come on dude. It's time to pick yourself up and shake yourself up, enough is enough. Don't even entertain the idea of meeting up with her because it's not gonna happen, she's not interested and even if you did meet up it would set you straight back to day 1. What do you think will come of it? You'll meet up with her, go for coffee, she'll be totally healed and happy and fine, staring straight through the happy facade you're putting on straight into your misery realizing you haven't moved on at all in 6 months and you're still in love with her (I guarantee she will sense this) and you'll be dying inside. It's a terrible idea and you need to get it out of your head immediately. She's gone. Repeat that over and over. DO YOU man, do you. This needs to be put to bed for good... 1
Author geronimo Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 oh man that set me straight lol thanks. You're right she's probably not thinking about me and doesn't even remember/probably wont show up. And if the odd chance she does, theres nothing I can gain from meeting up with her. I guess the only real way of reconcilation is if she sincerely reaches out and wants to give it another go and is truly sorry for what she put me through. Wont happen im sure but a man can hope. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 No you should not meet her. It was a childish promise, not one you are bound to as an adult. Plan something fun to do that day to keep off your mind. The relationship ran it's course. Let it continue to be over.
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