BenCalintz Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 (edited) There is this girl I got attracted to and we started texting for 1-2 months before I tried to ask her out and I told her that I am attracted to her but she replied that it is her exam period and is not the time. So I ask her does she has that spark for me inside of her and she says she don't know and never give it a though yet. So I continue texting with her until now. most of the time I would send her flirty text like I miss her and she will always reply back with positives respond. There is also this one time that I joke with her asking her to send me one of her photo, and she did. So a week back, I ask her since now she has ended her semester and is now the time we can be together and she reply that now is not the right time for her to be in a relationship because she is still studying and I am going to work in some other place soon and she feared that it will affect her results in college and she keep on apologizing to me because it is not the right time and she also say something like "is not the right time I meet her now and that we can still be best friend". So I back away for a week because I am confused about everything she says, is it really not the right time now or did she hinted that she is not interested in me with the "we can be best friend" part. I know that I am being too needy at first, and last night I saw her posted a picture on Facebook. So I went on and hit "Like" and also put in some comment to see whether she will ignore me after all that, but she didn't. We started commenting back and forth and it goes into the private chat. Btw, is just some normal chatting no flirting involved. So I just do not know whether I should keep in contact with her just to gives us some time to know each other better without being too needy and see how things goes or should i just move on because she is not interested. Edited May 11, 2015 by BenCalintz
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 You cannot create an emotional connection via text. Stop trying. Her answer that now is not the right time for a relationship is her gentle way of rejecting you. She simply doesn't like you in that way. Sorry. 3
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Did you blind her with a wall of text? Maybe you should focus more on studies rather than girls
CarrieT Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 So I just do not know whether I should keep in contact with her just to gives us some time to know each other better without being too needy and see how things goes or should i just move on because she is not interested. Have you actually spent time with each other IN REAL LIFE!?!? That is the only way to get to know her better - not be texting... 1
Author BenCalintz Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Did you blind her with a wall of text? Maybe you should focus more on studies rather than girls Nope, I did not blind her with a wall of text, just 1 text and she will reply before I send the next.
Author BenCalintz Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Have you actually spent time with each other IN REAL LIFE!?!? That is the only way to get to know her better - not be texting... We never get to spend time in real life but there is a few times that she ask to go find her in the classroom if I miss her, but I never happen. Aside from texting, I did call her to talk on the phone too, does it makes any different? But I will ask her out when I have the chance, we stayed quite far away.
Author BenCalintz Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 What was your one text? Not a very long one with 5 or 6 lines, just a short one with 1 - 2 lines. If you are asking about the content, it depends on the topic. If that's what u are asking.
clia Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 She is not interested in dating you and you should move on. She really hasn't been sending confusing messages, either. Her message has consistently been that she does not want a relationship because the time is not right. As donnivan pointed out, that's a gentle way of rejecting you.
CarrieT Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Aside from texting, I did call her to talk on the phone too, does it makes any different? But I will ask her out when I have the chance, we stayed quite far away. Of course it makes a difference! You are creating this girl - and this potential relationship - in your HEAD because you haven't actually had real-time with her. You don't know her; you know what you want her to be. The fact that she is not responding by giving you time In Real Life should speak volumes. Don't base your relationships off texts; go talk to girls and establish a REAL connection that you can build upon. It can't be done with faceless words...
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