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chillywilly

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chillywilly

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Hi everyone new here,recently separated. Have been married for ten years Im 34 shes 33. On child together 6. My wife was hurt at work 3 years ago,we struggled through that time very broke.I sold off a lot of my stuff to get us by and stop seeing most of my freinds and going out. Thought I was being a good husband and father.

 

Well 2 months ago she got a large sum of money from this whole deal. I thought great we can start building our dream home. Right away she started losing weight, buying new clothes ,jewelry. No problem she needed it after being cooped up all that time. Started going out ALOT with her female best freind who has cheated on all her exes. Im talking3 to 4 nights a week coming home in the morning to get kid ready so i can take him to school.then on weekends shed leave at suppertime and not be home to noon next day.

 

 

So I figured what the hey Id try going out with her to bar with her...bad seen she spent the whole night flirting and in my eyes ignoring me. Now I got jealous and blew up...shouldnt have and I know I have some jealousy issues. Im trying to work that out.She told me she wanted a divorce and we decided to separate been a week now and it really hurts. I love her and want her back but I dont know if I want her if shes gonna act the way she did.

 

 

Shes been really good about letting me see the kid even invited me overfor supper,she says its only temporary but Im worried. Everyone I talk to says no one else is involved and shes told me that herself. How long does this kinda thing take? all replies appeciated

Marshbear Established Member

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If you want her back I would tell her you would like to make it work but that she needs to respect you and your marriage or it won't work. SHE CANNOT GO OUT AND GO TO BARS AND FLIRT WITH MEN AND BE MARRIED TO YOU.

This is not acceptable. I know you would do just about anything to keep her with you but if she comes back and starts the same behavior your going to fight and be back where you started. She needs to respect you and you her. You need lots of communication. Both of you need to think of your family.

 

if she is not involved with someone now she soon will be. Her behavior is that of one looking for a new romance.

She is treating you nice because she feels guilty for the separation and being nice eases her conscious.

 

I wish you luck....

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