Krieger Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Well I am an introvert and proud of it. I can hold my on in a conversation and have no problem talking to anyone. I am down to earth and listen first take it all in and then act. Also think about other people more than myself. I am not an open book and I have to get to know you before I can feel safe to let you in. Trying new thing I am up for that. When I meet my GF friends I am not going to say much the first few times. Been told I can come off as Aloof but I do not mean too. Let’s say I had a GF and we been dating for a few months and I meet her family. Than her mom gets cancer I would send her mom flowers with telling my GF. I know that might be weird to some people but I am always thinking I can’t just turn my brain off like some people can. My brain is always going 100MPH all day every day. Yes I am in touch with my feeling but I will not cry over stupid stuff that is lame. However , I will cry at some point if I had a gf not on a first date or anything but down the road if we hit it off and it gets serious and it been a long period of time I hope she does not frreak out if I cry after some passionate sex it might happen. Seeing that I am going into nursing and want to work with children and end up taking care of kids with cancer and get to know the family I might cry if the kids does not make it or if he or she is cancer free now. Yes I would be strong in front of the family I have a job to do. That being said I might go take break and cry by myself feeling like I let the family down and I could of done more even if I did everything I could and more. If i meet a woman we get married and have kids right after their born I am going to cry. all that being said I do call people on their crap and stand up for myself I am far from a doormat. I will protect people weaker than me and have done so. I am good with kids I had roommate that had young kids and I would interact with them and play kids games things like that. The place I work kids come in all the time mostly on the weekends with their moms and dads. It just seems like out of all my coworkers they seem to talk to me and stuff they seek me out for some reason. One example is a few weeks ago I work out on the sales floor working and I saw this kid young 5 or 7 years old I think. He was running around and looks scared like looking for someone. Than he walk towards me and I saw his face he was crying and could not talk he was upset. So I got down to his lever so I can make eye contact and tried to ask him what was wrong are you hurt he shook his head NO than he got the words out he can’t find his mom and cried some more . Then I said it going to be ok and tries to calm him down somewhat. The place I work is not very big and we walk than was we were walking he grabbed my hand and wiped his tears away with the other one. The whole time I was telling him it going to be ok we will find your mom ok buddy. We found his mom she said thank you and gave her kid a hug and said something to him in Spanish. I think it must be something about me because the kids that come in with their parents do not seem to talk to any other coworkers. Also another funny thing well not really funny but at work you hear a kids parents tell him or her not to do something like climb end caps stay right here . They will do it once there back is turned but If I am on the sales floor working putting stuff away and catch them they have a deer in the head lights look and slowly stop and go do what there were told to do. I do not even have to say anything I just look at them with the look and they know there not supposed to do that. Next am can take charge when I need to can call people out on their BS. I do not need anyone approval and I know what I want and will go out in get it. However there is a few things that I need to work on like saying NO more when I do not want to do something and just say YES when I mean NO. This has gotten a lot better over the years. Also I do not like conflict and if someone hurts me I give them the silent treatment for a few days. I know it is not a good thing but I close down when I am hurt inside. I have been working on that too but it not been easy. When there is conflict I have to take it head on and deal with it right away no matter how uncomfortable it makes me. I am never going to be perfect but always trying to work on being the best man I can be.
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 If i meet a woman we get married and have kids right after their born I am going to cry. A) That's a big "If" B) How do you know you will cry? C) Will you be crying because of the sudden impact of a future of tremendous responsibility and monetary pressures? D) Is this your match.com profile or something?
Author Krieger Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 A) That's a big "If" B) How do you know you will cry? C) Will you be crying because of the sudden impact of a future of tremendous responsibility and monetary pressures? D) Is this your match.com profile or something? I like responsibility and everything that comes with it. Seeing is I want kids and all the crap I been through and overcame . I do not do online dating no thanks . 1
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I think you will be ok my man! Im not speaking as a woman but a guy who has cried in front of women. They eat it up to see a tough guy cry during a movie. But if you are a blubbering idiot all the freaking time I imagine they wont like it too much. 1
Author Krieger Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 What is the question? How do woman feel about introvert guys . We tend to get looked down on as aloof and stuck up . I think it is hard for people like me to date . I talk but am not going to talk you ear off about nothing for hours on end. Like when my boss said how come you do not open up more I was like what do you want to know ? What do you want to eat chocolate and cuddle I don't got time for that. I am here to make the company money. The way I see it if the place you work can care less about you why give them any dam information about your self that you don't have to. I am a difficult person to get to know I am not going to open up to you until I feel like I am ready or can trust you. That being said mist woman want yo know everything on a few dates and that not going to happen.
Author Krieger Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 I think you will be ok my man! Im not speaking as a woman but a guy who has cried in front of women. They eat it up to see a tough guy cry during a movie. But if you are a blubbering idiot all the freaking time I imagine they wont like it too much. Yea there are grown men at my job that cry about everything and can't figure out why there woman don't respect them. I know if I meet a great woman and going good for like 6 to 8 months and after some very passionate sex I might cry a little but it is because I never through I find a girl like that and happy . Than I wipe them away and laugh about it . It not like I will be crying my eyes out LOL
elaine567 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 How do woman feel about introvert guys . We tend to get looked down on as aloof and stuck up . I think it is hard for people like me to date . I talk but am not going to talk you ear off about nothing for hours on end. Like when my boss said how come you do not open up more I was like what do you want to know ? What do you want to eat chocolate and cuddle I don't got time for that. I am here to make the company money. The way I see it if the place you work can care less about you why give them any dam information about your self that you don't have to. I am a difficult person to get to know I am not going to open up to you until I feel like I am ready or can trust you. That being said mist woman want yo know everything on a few dates and that not going to happen. You are going to have to get over that to some extent, because many just do not want to put the work into someone who is a stone wall, a piece of granite that they have chip away at all the time in order to get anything back from. You want to attract healthy open people as they are the easiest to have relationships with, and that means you have to have a healthier mindset yourself. I am not saying you need to tell everyone on the bus/at work/in the bar... your deepest darkest secrets, but being more open and friendly to all, will reap benefits for you.
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 You are going to have to get over that to some extent, because many just do not want to put the work into someone who is a stone wall, a piece of granite that they have chip away at all the time in order to get anything back from. You want to attract healthy open people as they are the easiest to have relationships with, and that means you have to have a healthier mindset yourself. I am not saying you need to tell everyone on the bus/at work/in the bar... your deepest darkest secrets, but being more open and friendly to all, will reap benefits for you. Yeah but you open him up too much and he is crying all over you!
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