Just broke up with a fake-ass GF, lead me on, but I feel good we parted ways

[TheLonesomeWarrior]

I was introduced to this girl, whom I have dated for the last six-seven months.

 

I was into her, and I guess, she liked me because we have texted and talked on the phone during our initial two months of dating.

 

During Christmas time, I bought her a gold pendant for Christmas gift, while she only bought me a cheesy Christmas song CD.

 

She wasn't that pretty either, but okay-looking body. Her looks, out of a 5point scale, would be a 2.5-3.

 

However, i liked her because we both worked in similar career fields, and we were only one year apart in age. She also knew one of my sister's best middle school friends, whom attended the same high school she graduated from.

 

To make a long story short, she stopped "initating" text messages to me in March of this year.

 

It was me literally phoning her, and sending her text messages, while she did not even bother to text me.

 

Before our official break-up two days ago, we hung out together and baseball or home collegiate volleyball games.

 

Funny thing is I would wrap my arms around her, but she would not wrap her arms around me.

 

The reality hit me about a month ago when I was hospitalized for small bowel obstruction. Even if it was a minor problem that didn't require surgery or only staying two days in the hospital, this girl didn't even bother coming to visit me. She just called to see how I was doing.

 

In the past, when she went on trips out of town, for Thanksgiving or during the Christmas season, I would wish her a very nice trip by sending her text messages.

 

Three weeks ago, I visited Los Angeles area with my parents, to visit my younger sister, and some old college friends in the area.

 

Freaking girl didn't even send me one single text message to wish me a safe and fun-filled trip.

 

I came back from my trip, and the she never bothered to call me.

 

I then called her and scheduled a dinner (which would be our last) for last week Thursday.

 

We met, talked about my trip. At the end of the dinner when the check was given to us, she just waited and waited, expecting me to pay for all of the dinner. Like I have done in the past.

 

I told her that she would have to pay for our dinner, and she refused, but complied when I suggested we divide the cost and pay for our own half.

 

After walking outside, I told her my honest feelings, and asked her if it's okay for me to move into her new apartment she purchased. She said no.

 

When I got home, she texted me to call her.

 

Basically I told her in the conversation that I didn't like her, and felt that she didn't like me, and prefer that we break up.

 

Break up it was.

 

Before hanging up, I told her to give me back the gold pendant that I gave her during Christmas time, as well as the dish set that I have purchased for her, for her birthday present.

 

I didn't really care much to get back the dish set. But I was really intent on getting back the gold pendant because of the $$$ my folks and I spent on buying her that gift.

 

Anyhow, I feel disappointed, and felt like she used me. But at the same time, I feel happy that I gained some "dating experience" with the relationship with her.

 

I also feel this strange feeling of "relief" after breaking up with her.

[Josh1974]

You should feel relief. She was a selfish arse.

[Omei]

You're both weird first off you come across too strong for a 7 month relationship

 

You bought her a pendant but are disappointed what you got in return you don't buy gifts in hopes to have it matched you buy them out of the kindness of your heart also when a breakup happens you don't ask for the things you gave back so you can get a refund wtf? If you're going to be that tacky dont buy gifts in the first place if you're just going to want them back when things didnt go your way childish.

 

There's nothing wrong with splitting the bill.

 

I think calling you while you were in the hospital was fine at 7 months if you're not getting surgery or even staying overnight a friendly call is just fine.

 

Asking to move in this early I can see why she would say no. She gets a new place and you immediately ask to move in...I noticed you said your folks im guessing your parents helped you buy the gift do you live at home? If so I could understand even greater as to why she wouldnt want to take you in.

 

The only thing I see here that she could of done better was wish you well on the trip and text more for you but you come off very needy and you expect a lot for how short this relationship was maybe she saw it too.

 

I cannot say if shes selfish or not based on your post I see you rushing in and her backing off.

[ExpatInItaly]

I don't think she was necessarily fake, but I do think she had been losing interest for a little while and you didn't want to see the signs right away. She should've broken up with you before now, but you did the right thing in letting her go.

 

But why on earth did you ask her if you could move in to her new apartment? That seems like a very strange question if you knew the relationship wasn't going to work out?

[madjac74]

 

However, i liked her because we both worked in similar career fields, and we were only one year apart in age. She also knew one of my sister's best middle school friends, whom attended the same high school she graduated from.

 

This is why you liked her??