Amtracker Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I need some advice and help with my Ex GF. We dated for about two years but we broke up in January of 2015. The break was because she didn't trust me and a Friend of hers told her I slept with another girl. That is false I didn't cheat on her but I date the girl in question. Every time my ex I were out she would ask if I fooled around with that girl. I would say no. My ex has serious jealousy issues. That's why I didn't tell her. I made a mistake. She also stated that I worked too much and shouldn't be out during the week drinking with other co workers (we lived together in my house). I have a great career but it's stressful so my buddies and I after shift would go and grab a cocktail. I'll get to the point. We talked after the breakup and it seemed like she wanted to get back together. She wanted to marry me while we were dating. I told her to wait and let's get my new house in order. I felt that after we broke up and she stated if I changed things would be better. I stopped working overtime and showed her I wasn't out partying with guys from work. About 2 months ago I bought a ring and I was going to ask her to marry me. I talked about with her sister. She stated that my ex missed me and I should go for it. The day before I was going to see her, I texted her and said I can't wait to see her. She responded with that couldn't see me and was in the process of writing a letter. I was crushed and finally got her on the phone. She stated that she didn't have the same feelings and when we kissed a week ago she didn't feel the same as she use to. This girl loved me and was head over heals for me. I told her about the ring and she said engagement wouldn't fix things. I told her I loved her and will always have a place in my heart for her. I wished her luck. I was crushed but about two weeks later she texted me and said she missed me and missed talking with me. I said ok and we started talking again. Weeks have gone on and we have hung out. No intimacy but we kissed a few times. A few days ago I found she was talking and seeing a guy she met at a trade school seminar. She denied seeing anyone prior to this. I asked her but my gut told me otherwise. I was right. I told her to choose me or him. Probably not a good idea. She said 48 hours is enough time. Two days later she texted me and said she wants to be alone because she has feelings for this dude. Who doesn't have a full time job. He also has a daughter and only sees her every two weeks. The guy is a zero. I told her ok goodbye but I said if she wants to meet up again in the future and were single it would cool. She freaked out and said she didn't get me. She said that she has love for him but is not in love with him. She also said if she was in love with him she wouldn't be talking with me. We started talking again and hung out tonight at my house. It was going good I tried touching her and flirting with her but she was acting distant. I kissed her but and she said that she feels something but it's not like when we were together. She said I was giving her pressure. I asked about the other guy and she said he's not around. She said yes I talk to him once and a while and we all talk to people. Mind you he lives about 3 hours away. She said he has a lot of cons but is nice to her and talks to her all the time and gives her attention. I know I should be cool but I love her so much. It hurts and I want her back. What should I do. What's going on with her. Is she stringing me along. I offered so much than any other guy she's been with.
ravfour4 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 She sounds flakey as hell. She breaks up with you because of jealously. Then you hook-up, she supposedly misses you but then she says she doesn't care about you the same, you say you wanted to propose (never a good thing to say after someone says they don't like you, but I get it, you were desperate), she says no. Then she continually keeps coming back every so often, giving you mixed signals and using you to feel better about herself. She's dragging you along until she finds the next best thing. She's confused, don't let her force you on an up and down rollercoaster with her. Tell her that you'll talk to her if she's single and interested in reconnecting, otherwise you are done.
Author Amtracker Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Thanks. She said she misses me. Prior to me finding out about this other guy she would say she can't wait to see me. It's odd. Now she wants to go out on Friday to the movies. My family, friends and, co workers really don't care for her anymore.
ravfour4 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 She wants to keep you at her side just in case she can't find anyone else, or anyone else she deems "better", as a Plan B it sounds like. She wants to keep hanging out with you, but as soon as you try to make it a relationship she says No. I went through the same with my ex while she was secretly seeing another man the few months after we had broken up, but were still living together. She'd go hang out with him (I didn't know it at the time), then come home and want to watch a movie and sometimes even make me dinner. Then, I'd say something about getting back together and it was an instant no. She was keeping me around in case it didn't work out with the new guy.
Author Amtracker Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Thanks bro! Yea also said she wants to come back and give her heart to me but she said she has trust issues. She said to many girls have walked up and said hi to me at bars or events. Mind you I know all these girls from work. She still gets crappy with me if she hears about another women or me talking about it. She said if she sees me with another women she will freak. Also our dog who now lives with me, she stated that she doesn't want any women around her dog. What a joke. All my friends say I can and have done better.
ravfour4 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I think the extreme jealously shows immaturity that will continue to make you miserable if you got back together with her. She'll always be worrying and bugging you about it, she needs to change on her own accord before you should want her back. I also kept me and my ex-gf's dog, she recently admitted that her new bf (a married fool going through a divorce) has been around him after telling me how mad she'd be to have another girl around our dog. She then said "but I feel like he's getting a lot of attention so it's ok"....oh, so that's how the double standard works,eh? ... haha
loveiswar101 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Not to pipe in but looks like your a plan B as above. My one day said she missed me, next day wanted space. LOL. Be strong here buddy. Let her sort her self out, go NC. She needs to change...alot. Seems also she loves the drama like many ex's do. Keep us hanging and hanging on every text and call. Let go...get off the roller coaster my friend !
Author Amtracker Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Alright thanks guys appreciate it. I do feel like the plan B. I need to get out of this. I know she will call again. Since posting this I really don't feel the juice is worth the squeeze. It's been a hassle.
Diezel Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Go get your money back for that ring. Live your life. Sounds more like she wanted to tie you down and keep you in a bubble more than anything else.
Author Amtracker Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Took it back a few weeks ago. Thank god they took it back
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