Author johndoe2 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 You'd be surprised at the number of women I come across that are 5'3" and still demand a man they date be 6 feet tall. So at 5'5" you're kind of screwed...unless you attempt to date Filipina women which tend to be very small and petite (5'0 and sometimes shorter). Incidentally about half the women who have been willing to go on dates with me (which is like 3 out of 6 or something) and the one I dated the longest (~3 months) were Asian. Maybe it's the height, I don't know. Blunt truth. If OLD is your main dating venue, you might as well hang it up. Yeah, kind of getting that impression. But bars and clubs haven't been any more fruitful so far. Sigh.
smackie9 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 The more you worry about your height the more you lack confidence, the more you lack confidence in yourself the more women won't date you. 2
PogoStick Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I have a guy friend who isn't taller than 5'5, I'm not sure exactly. He's not that strong, muscular, or masculine, but he just married a tiny Japanese girl. Problem solved.
La.Primavera Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Sure, it is a deal breaker for some but I can assure you it is not the case for all women. 1
OpenBook Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 The more you worry about your height the more you lack confidence, the more you lack confidence in yourself the more women won't date you. This. It's not about how I feel about your height, it's how YOU feel about it. Being around someone who is mentally bearing the weight of a perceived shortfall (pardon the pun) is uncomfortable to be around. I'm not dealing with the guy himself (the REAL him), I'm dealing with his insecurities. 1
calvincline47 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Incidentally about half the women who have been willing to go on dates with me (which is like 3 out of 6 or something) and the one I dated the longest (~3 months) were Asian. Maybe it's the height, I don't know. Yeah, kind of getting that impression. But bars and clubs haven't been any more fruitful so far. Sigh. The women that tend to be attracted to me are usually Asian and/or highly educated women. Or women looking for a new baby daddy lol.
calvincline47 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I have a guy friend who isn't taller than 5'5, I'm not sure exactly. He's not that strong, muscular, or masculine, but he just married a tiny Japanese girl. Problem solved. The issue is not whether the guy can get one girl. It's that short guys have a severe lack of options because most women won't date them/us. 1
calvincline47 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I'd bang him. Not sure about date. Im 5'10 so... Most women think this way. A taller women is not considered to be aesthetically pleasing. It's funny that we've come so far in race and gender related issues, but short men are still highly discriminated against. It's definitely not difficult to get laid as a short guy, but it's definitely difficult to seriously date, mostly because of societal norms.
CrystalCastles Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 would you, honestly, date a man who is as short as 5'5? Yes. I would. In fact I'm dating a man right now who is 5'5. I'm 5'11.
LiquidGold Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 As a short man it has no doubt been tough. Especially online dating. Not saying it can't be done, but it is much harder than it should be. To be honest it is disheartening and I really don't get it. I am just as masculine as those taller than me, and offer the same things. To be harshly judged (and I do mean harshly if you've read some of the things found online and in dating profiles) for something I cannot change. This. It's not about how I feel about your height, it's how YOU feel about it. Being around someone who is mentally bearing the weight of a perceived shortfall (pardon the pun) is uncomfortable to be around. I'm not dealing with the guy himself (the REAL him), I'm dealing with his insecurities. This is so infuriating. Everywhere you look, you hear about how women prefer tall guys, for such and such reasons, and how much more attractive they find them. Then in the same breath say they would be willing to date a short guy if he didn't have hangups. A lot of us have hangups because we are constantly told how unattractive our height is. You cannot have it both ways. I also feel like short guys have a much shorter leash to work with when it comes to venting. If a tall guy had insecurities outside of his height, he'd be considered "vulnerable," but if a short guy lets on that yes, sometimes he's self conscious about his height - he gets the "insecure" tag and the girl moves on. But I think it's largely because she was barely attracted to him in the first place and wanted a clean out. Most people have insecurities. Short men are not special in that regard. But it seems when other people have insecurities (weight, boob size, race) it is much more forgivable than a short man venting about his problems.
jay1983 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Depends what your body looks like. If you're 5'5" skinny with the body of a boy, you're gonna have problems. You need bulk, so I'd say hit the gym, get that chest that sticks out and arms that fill in your sleeve to compensate height. Somebody mentioned shoe lifts for an extra inch or 2. Not a bad idea.
jay1983 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yes. I would. In fact I'm dating a man right now who is 5'5. I'm 5'11. Damn I'm 5'11" lol
Author johndoe2 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 This. It's not about how I feel about your height, it's how YOU feel about it. Being around someone who is mentally bearing the weight of a perceived shortfall (pardon the pun) is uncomfortable to be around. I'm not dealing with the guy himself (the REAL him), I'm dealing with his insecurities. Not to sound accusatory, but I'm not sure I buy that, it sounds like a rationalization. 'It's not that you're X that I find unattractive, it's that you're so hung up about being X.' Frankly I wasn't so insecure about my height, but the repeated rejection - and of course the number of women who outright say 'must be this tall to get in' - is what has made start to think about it. It didn't just come from nowhere. 1
Breezee Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I'm 5' 3" and have dated guys between 5' 6" and 5' 9". Into my 30's I simply began preferring guys who were 6 footers. STBXH is a 6 footer and the previous two before him were 6' 4". For me at least, I think it has to do with feeling protected. That said, there are many women I know whose bf and/or H's are short. One woman I know is married to a guy who looks to be 3-4 inches shorter than she is, and she's only 5' 1"! So keep looking, there's a gal out there for you!
calvincline47 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I'm 5' 3" and have dated guys between 5' 6" and 5' 9". Into my 30's I simply began preferring guys who were 6 footers. STBXH is a 6 footer and the previous two before him were 6' 4". For me at least, I think it has to do with feeling protected. That said, there are many women I know whose bf and/or H's are short. One woman I know is married to a guy who looks to be 3-4 inches shorter than she is, and she's only 5' 1"! So keep looking, there's a gal out there for you! "Protected" = showing off the tall guys to your friends. There's nothing to be protected from in the current society we live in.
calvincline47 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 This. It's not about how I feel about your height, it's how YOU feel about it. Being around someone who is mentally bearing the weight of a perceived shortfall (pardon the pun) is uncomfortable to be around. I'm not dealing with the guy himself (the REAL him), I'm dealing with his insecurities. Definitely not true. In our society, bigger is considered better. Women want the nicest cars, biggest houses, tallest men, etc. Height matters more than all else. If they didn't, you would see more mismatched couples with the female being taller than the male. You don't really see this. I don't believe it's evolutionary. I believe that it's due to our culture and the fact that women tend to follow trends, as opposed to thinking outside the box.
mongo Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 height does not guarantee you dating success, i can tell you that much. im 6'4 athletic and muscular, and i have trouble. so if youre under 6 ft, then you say "if only i was 6 ft tall then women would want me"...that seems like a fallacy.
Bobbi7 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Well, I'm trying to move past my height/muscle requirements, but its hard...
No Limit Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yes, I would. Then again, I'm 5'3 and never encountered a guy shorter than me. The only one I knew passed my size in a rapid developement 2 years ago, damn.
ascendotum Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 height does not guarantee you dating success, i can tell you that much. im 6'4 athletic and muscular, and i have trouble. so if youre under 6 ft, then you say "if only i was 6 ft tall then women would want me"...that seems like a fallacy. Well there are the odd exceptions. If a 6'4 muscular brute of a guy looked and acted like Mongo from Blazing Saddles, yeah then that guy would have a bit of a hard time
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