asjl Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 my ex and i were together on and off for 3 and a half yrs. we share a son. he lives with his mom. i have mhy own place. lately we have been breaking up quite a bit. i have been unhappy, but i love him. for several months now he spends more weekends without me than with me. he states he needs alone time. (there is no other woman). he just prefers his friends and mom. recently i ended it. again. after a week i started missing him. this past tues. he came over to see our son and we talked. we agreed to be friends and date eachother (my suggestion) and he told me he loves me. however, the weekend thing is going to remain. i told him he needs to start spending some alone time with me or this is not going to work. i know i love him more than he does me, but i am wondering if he really loves me at all. i know only he knows that answer, but any feedback would be great. (when each of us thought the other broke it off a couple of weeks ago, he admitted he had trouble sleeping).
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 I think this isn't a healthy relationship for anyone involved especially your Son... IMO it's pretty difficult to go from *We are a couple, We have a Son together* to *Let's just date casually* relationships have to progress or they have to end. Time IMO for the 2 of you to decide what you both want and then determine if it's something you can BOTH live with and be happy with. The back and fourth, Break up to Make up isn't good for either one of you emotionally and for your Son it will only become confusing and un-set in time... IF he wants to make things work with you then he NEEDS to be there for you AND the child the 2 of you share together... while everyone needs some down time or alone time and thats all good to go... your BF is STILL a Father and IMO it isn't okay for him to stop being one if or when it isn't convienant for him or he would rather be hangin out with his boys... Don't allow him to drift in and out of you and your Sons life.. that isn't fair for you or for him (your Son) Good Luck
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