MissBee Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I'm just saying, basically, you just cannot put a time table on certain things. You may not get married by 30, and wind up married by 40. I think what others are saying is that most people aren't that naive or stupid where they don't realize this. This is not a revelation. I think the way you're coming off is that you think anyone who has any plan or time frame about marriage or any other thing is completely naive and doesn't realize that it may not happen and you're here to inform them that it doesn't always work that way. I don't think, unless you're 5, that most adults really don't get that things happen. I think it's about the type of person you are, glass half full or half empty type. I think most people have desires and timetables and are still flexible to realize if 30 hits and no marriage comes they won't run into oncoming traffic, but they'll adjust. Nothing is wrong with having hopes, desires or a plan, you can still have these targets in mind while also realizing life happens...the two aren't mutually exclusive.
hotpotato Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 I had goals to be married and have all my kids by 30. It didnt happen. Its not an unrealistic goal depending on where you live. In my town a lot of people get married in their 20s. There are plenty of women my age whove already been married at least once and have 3 kids.
Rejected Rosebud Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 OP you didn't answer my question!! Also I was thinking that if you want to be married it is not very hard to accomplish for a lot of people, I just googled and about 75% of American women are married by 30 and 80% by 40! I bet she did get married!
Cupid's Puppet Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Wow 75 percent? I definitely feel like a reject now. I guess our past is a good indicator of our future. And the number only increases by 5% at 40. lol. That means a lot of women who didn't get married by 30, only 5% will get married by 40. So I have a 5% chance of getting married in the next decade....great.
zebracolors Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 What is the old adage? There's only two certainties in life, death and taxes:laugh: I don't think there is anything wrong with a young person to having such goals. When we are young, its so easy say things we'd like to happen. But then, we grow up and learn that life does not always go as planned because so many factors can influence what happens. 1
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