ZA Dater Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Not sure if this specifically applies to this particular sub forum but I think its true to say there are many "good" guys out there who battle with dating, many of which, myself included hold into the idea that one day they will find that person who wants to be physical with them and there is that mutual connection. However, at what stage does one go from looking for that overall package to just looking for physical gratification, assuming one can find that at all? How far down the age scale should one give up on the ideal?
Gary S Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 It's better to be single than to be in a half-baked, poor relationship.
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Not sure if this specifically applies to this particular sub forum but I think its true to say there are many "good" guys out there who battle with dating, many of which, myself included hold into the idea that one day they will find that person who wants to be physical with them and there is that mutual connection. However, at what stage does one go from looking for that overall package to just looking for physical gratification, assuming one can find that at all? How far down the age scale should one give up on the ideal? I think the problem most people have is that they put too much emphasis on the physical. In reality, most of us are not going to get along on a gut, emotional level and if we do, our lifestyles (living together) will be different. If you've ever dated and lived with a woman, you know that's a big difference. However, almost 95% of people do things conversely. In that, instead of screening at some point in the middle to see if compatibility is there, they screen at the way beginning for looks. 95 out of 100 potential partners are gone (either because you rejected or got rejected) before they have even really spoken a word. Then, out of the 5 that are left, rejections are made in terms of income, (lack of ) bravado/confidence, dating etiquette, and Seinfeldian like faux pas. And out of the 1 out of 100 that is left, you think you are going to find somebody who you get along and to live the rest of your life with in the same bed for 40 years? In terms of your original question, you can change the way you live life any time you want.
Author ZA Dater Posted May 10, 2015 Author Posted May 10, 2015 I think the problem most people have is that they put too much emphasis on the physical. In reality, most of us are not going to get along on a gut, emotional level and if we do, our lifestyles (living together) will be different. If you've ever dated and lived with a woman, you know that's a big difference. However, almost 95% of people do things conversely. In that, instead of screening at some point in the middle to see if compatibility is there, they screen at the way beginning for looks. 95 out of 100 potential partners are gone (either because you rejected or got rejected) before they have even really spoken a word. Then, out of the 5 that are left, rejections are made in terms of income, (lack of ) bravado/confidence, dating etiquette, and Seinfeldian like faux pas. And out of the 1 out of 100 that is left, you think you are going to find somebody who you get along and to live the rest of your life with in the same bed for 40 years? In terms of your original question, you can change the way you live life any time you want. My question is really when does one stop chasing the intellectual connection and just chase a one night stand.
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