aelvidge Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. I am on vacation at the moment but when we are at home we are constantly texting and talking so whilst I've been away we haven't been talking as much and he says he misses me. 2 days ago he said he can't wait until I'm home to see me again and he's going to start treating me and taking me out more. We both came clean about our feelings towards each other and decided to see where it went when I got home. He knows I have been hurt in the past and also promised he wouldn't hurt me. He has never had a relationship before and has admitted he is scared of getting into one. Now yesterday he texted me saying he needed to talk, and he thinks he would prefer us as friends. He says he's very confused on what he wants he says sometimes he likes the idea of us giving things ago and sometimes he just wants to be single as he's young. He also said he hates the world? I said that I would give him space but I'm not waiting around and I'm not being messed around either. He said he'd like it if I contact him when I'm home but I'm not sure if I even will. Any idea what's happened here? I am so confused!
badpenny Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 To be honest with you, I would suggest you leave him well alone, and let him contact you. Excuse the bluntness, but if HE is the one who is dithering from foot to foot - why should it be you who makes the efforts required to try to re-balance this and keep it on an even keel? In a way, I think he's subconsciously testing you. Sorry, but in your position, I would fall off his radar, and let him come to conclusions about his own commitment. If you hear nothing, that will tell you all you need to know. If he still 'broadcasts' mixed messages, I would still give him a wide berth, because he's using you to test the waters. Nope. This guy isn't a good investment, insofar as opening your heart-account to him is concerned....
ExpatInItaly Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 He realized he's not ready to commit and doesn't want to lead you on. No idea about his hating the world comment, sounds a bit dramatic and immature. I wouldn't bother contacting him, I don't think any good will come of it.
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