Author smg15 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 Well when I talk to someone new, I like to have 1 long conversation and 1 short one before setting up a date. And people who are 30 and over just can't pick up and meet like they are college kids home for the summer because it maybe things they have to do. If I start talking to someone on a monday, I will try to set up a date for that coming weekend. If I start talking to someone on a thursday, I would set up a date for the following weekend
fitnessfan365 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Well when I talk to someone new, I like to have 1 long conversation and 1 short one before setting up a date. And people who are 30 and over just can't pick up and meet like they are college kids home for the summer because it maybe things they have to do. This could not be more UNTRUE. When I call a woman I met online and make plans with her, I always ask when she's free. The majority of them all give suggestions within 2-3 days out. These are women ranging from late 20's to early 40's. So if you're spending so much time on the phone with women because you think you can't meet sooner, that's a mistake on your part man.
Josh1974 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Texting is fine at first but the fact of the matter is it fails on its own in the long run. Too much is left to interpretation without the tone. Long conversations via text take up an extraordinary amount of time. I had a four hour argument with an ex once by text that could have been solved in less than half that time on the phone. Unless you're seeing that person constantly, the phone conversation is absolutely vital. Too many times I have met someone online, have gone straight to text only to have it fade in a week. It has its upsides to be sure, but it is a very poor method on its own.
Auspecial Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 This advice is about business. Business calls are simple because everyone is acting. I'm acting, the other person is acting, we grab buzzwords and try to sound knowledgeable. We have a work related back and forth that nearly mirrors a written business correspondence and can draw from a pretty standard playbook. Ever wonder why companies FLY their top sales people in to close huge deals? It's because the phone doesn't allow someone to pick up on the tiniest nuances necessary to make a crucial sale. I know from experience. The first push I took away from science/tech was doing international sales for a tech company. They flew me in to help our distributiors in Europe and the Middle East (and Australia a few times) close deals. I'd pop in and drop millions in revenue onto our balance sheet by doing what can only be done with the necessary visual cues. Making progress with a woman you're interested in is exactly the same. You're running blind, literally and figuratively, using a simple audio stream (a very low fidelity one at that) to communicate. Might as well use smoke signals or morse code. Not much better. Of course, this is my opinion only, as a visual communication type. Others are auditory, others sensory. You can tell someone's communication type from their word usage sometimes. "That sounds good to me" "I see what you mean" "I feel good about this" " Great post!
No Limit Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It's even more weird to constantly see someone's face when talking to them. Skype calls don't necessarily include webcams. It's also fun to check out the other person's room in the background.
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