Author lizzy12 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Share Posted May 11, 2015 (edited) One of his hobbies is dancing. He is good at swing dancing. When he dances with me he always holds me super close, and holds my hand when he takes me on to the dance floor. But after dancing with me, it always looks like he wants to hold me but is stopping himself and is super shy. He does dance with other women (they have to ask him though) and he doesn't hold them close and doesn't talk to them afterwards. Edited May 11, 2015 by lizzy12 Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 So he only likes to hold ladies when he's dancing...yes that doesn't sound gay at all Link to post Share on other sites
Author lizzy12 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Share Posted May 11, 2015 So he only likes to hold ladies when he's dancing...yes that doesn't sound gay at all Haha I'm pretty sure he isn't gay. im seeing him again this weekend, shall I just go for a hug and then wrap my arms around his? Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Haha I'm pretty sure he isn't gay. im seeing him again this weekend, shall I just go for a hug and then wrap my arms around his? yes and throw this in too at the same time - "Kiss him on the cheek next to the lips" so there is less ambiguity for him on your feelings Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 It won't be off putting to him to kiss him? Do you think he is definitely interested in me? You'll never know unless you try. If he's indeed heterosexual, I can't imagine a small kiss from you would "put him off". And if it did, then you know where you stand and can decide where to go from there. At this point, a little respectful touching and even a small kiss isn't too much to hope for. I say GO FOR IT Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Haha I'm pretty sure he isn't gay. im seeing him again this weekend, shall I just go for a hug and then wrap my arms around his? So you say he only holds you while you dance? Can't you rub against his penis a bit and see if anything happens? Probably not because you are a girl but it is worth a try Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Okay fourth 'date' and he ramps up the touching- to nervously patting my hand across the table lol. Does it look like he is just shy with me? I was worried before he might be a player, but if he is so shy is it really unlikely. Why on earth would you think he is a player? He sounds like he is about as far from a player as is possible to be. He sounds like he is either really shy and/or has no clue what to do. Maybe he was in a LTR for too long, or has little experience? If you are keen on him, why not take the lead an escalate it? Generate some touch, put yourself in a position where you can be kissed, kiss him if he still doesnt respond. That way, you will find out if he is interested and is just shy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lizzy12 Posted May 16, 2015 Author Share Posted May 16, 2015 So today I invited him over for some dinner at my place, we made some food together and then chatted over food... Stayed at my house for about 3 hours.... Still no move from the guy!!! He teases me a bit more, getting a bit more comfortable and touches me but only on my shoulder. Now it's getting to be a bit awkward since we have been alone together so many times, surely he doesn't see me just as a friend?? We only just met so we have not been friends before Link to post Share on other sites
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 So today I invited him over for some dinner at my place, we made some food together and then chatted over food... Stayed at my house for about 3 hours.... Still no move from the guy!!! He teases me a bit more, getting a bit more comfortable and touches me but only on my shoulder. Now it's getting to be a bit awkward since we have been alone together so many times, surely he doesn't see me just as a friend?? We only just met so we have not been friends before sounds like you would rather miss out on being with him or stop seeing him than you make a move on him first, even if you know he likes you Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 sounds like you would rather miss out on being with him or stop seeing him than you make a move on him first, even if you know he likes you Looks that way to me. Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 If you are interested in him, then you need to take charge because this guy certainly isn't. Kiss him during your next date. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know. Link to post Share on other sites
BPositive Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 If you are alone, why not ask if he would like to kiss you? Honestly, I sort of know how the guy feels. I am also really slow in this (mind you, in my case, we walk fast and there is no real indicator for me to be sure she wants me to Kiss her). Also, the old trick of sitting on a bench together and grabbing his hand while gazing in his eyes can do wonders... Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 sounds like you would rather miss out on being with him or stop seeing him than you make a move on him first, even if you know he likes you Quite possibly. IRL and on here I have heard comments from women to this effect. They use this as part of their screening for 'a real man' or 'if he had real passion for he would have made a grab for me by date 2...so he wont be any good at sex....next' He is lucky he has got her to still be in the running. The OP inviting the guy to his house was a solid move. I't certainly seems this guy is not that experienced on dating or on reading forums like this or dating advice in lads mags. She needs to be a bit more forward, like when they watched a movie, sit down next to him on the couch, but real close so they are touching and rest her hand on his lap or on his. Make a teasing remark about him being being shy and only having the courage to touch her on the shoulder. Use her feet to play with/stroke his legs while eating dinner at the table and give him a mischievous smile when he looks back at her. If she likes him she is going to have to be a bit of a playful vixen with him. Link to post Share on other sites
lovexocoach Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 Sounds like he's too tentative (perhaps you're not sending the right signals to him?) and you're going to have to initiate things like touching, holding hands, and kissing. Link to post Share on other sites
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