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He said it's weird that I never participated in civil disobedience in NYC and that he admires people with white privilage who do it even though they don't have to. He said I'm apathetic about police brutality. He also acts as if I should know everything there is to know about his home country. He quizzed me on a few things and was upset that I didn't know what started a war in his country in the 80's and who Cesar Chavez was. He said,"I thought you would have shown SOME interest in Latino studies, it's part of who I am."

 

He said I'm not willing to try new things, even though I bugged him to take his bondage gear out of storage for ages. He said that I never wrap my legs around him, even though I do sometimes. I don't understand why he doesn't notice. Usually when I do something he likes, he tells me and encourages me to keep doing it.

 

He said,"I love when women communicate what they want me to do to them". To imply that I haven't. But I do! He has said no to everything lately. Ex- We only have anal when HE wants to. When I get horny for it, he says no. When I wanted to sit on his face (he usually loves it) he said "no, don't."

 

On Fri, he finally said he's taking the bondage stuff out of storage. We were texting, I told him some things I want to do TO him in a few paragraphs. I wrote that I love being submissive, but enjoy switching it up. It was 6am by that point. Well later, he said he wishes I would tell him what I want to do TO him in bed. That he loves when submissive women switch it up. He was implying that I don't. I told him,"But I just told you some things this morning. I even said that I like to switch it up" When I repasted my text from 6am, he said,"That's it?" I said,"I would have written more, but it was 6am!." He said,"Gotcha, I understand." I went to bed early due to staying up late. He didn't say good morning this morning. Isn't texting like usual. I sent him a video, he laughed. That's it. What's his deal?

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Give him back his freedom so you and him can find someone compatible. He's trying to change you into someone you are not, he is even dictating you what your interest should be, really!

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I've never expected a SO to take an interest in my home country's history. I find the political-stuff off-putting.

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I wouldn't even talk to somebody who isn't completely up to date on the state of agriculture in Bavaria.

 

Is that wrong of me?

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Im sure you could find many things you know about that he doesn't, and then act petulant because he doesn't. He sounds like a bit of a dick to be honest.

 

Are you happy in the relationship? It sounds like it's not great, it sounds like he doesn't respect you. He seems to do things just to spite you.

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I wouldn't even talk to somebody who isn't completely up to date on the state of agriculture in Bavaria.

 

Is that wrong of me?

 

Personally I never get past the first date if someone can't recite PI to at least 10 decimal places :)

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Personally I never get past the first date if someone can't recite PI to at least 10 decimal places :)

 

3.141592653589793... that's all I got.

 

How you doin'? :cool:

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Personally I never get past the first date if someone can't recite PI to at least 10 decimal places :)

 

That counts me out :(

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I'd say he's full of himself. When I was a lot younger, I was acquainted with someone who had been active in a certain revolution and was appalled how little young Americans bothered to keep themselves informed of world affairs. He just couldn't believe that a 20-something in Texas wouldn't know all about an ongoing skirmish across the pond beyond knowing it was going on. I responded something along the line of "But isn't this what you hope for? That you reach a place your women and children don't have to wake up worried about the details of war every day?" He did go on to be knighted, whereas I received no honors whatever, so I guess that means he was right. :confused:

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If he were my BF acting like this, I would interpret this as him wanting more of an emotional connection and passion. Or, that he's just looking for a reason to dump me and working up to that because he's tired of me.

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If he were my BF acting like this, I would interpret this as him wanting more of an emotional connection and passion. Or, that he's just looking for a reason to dump me and working up to that because he's tired of me.

 

I'm going with either he's tired of me, or is on a power trip. Sometimes people pick fault as a way to control you. If I wanted to get closer to someone, I wouldn't complain that they're not doing certain things when they're already doing them. How would he like it if he gave me a back rub and hours later I started saying how much I loved it when previous partners gave me me backrubs and that it would be really nice if he did that too.

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