whitelakeguy Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) I met a wonderful super sexed up girl about 6 months ago. We were having sex here and there for the first few months. We started dating more after the first few months. Six months in her boyfriend called me. He had found my address because she emailed him on Facebook from my house and facebook included my address. He told me had been with her the past 2.5 years. They had been having sex regularly, sometimes the same days she had sex with me. She had been lying to both of us about where she was. She told us both she loved us. Her bf also told me she cheated on her husband of 12 years the last 2 years with 5 guys including her friends husband for 2 years. I confronted her. She made some excuses and swore she was done with him. Now I find out not even a week later he asks her to be friends. She went to his house to talk. She asked him to keep their friendship a secret. She also met him at the bar and danced sexually...no kissing...talked to him a lot about their past relationship...then left at about 2:30 am after sitting in the parking lot holding handsand talking. ( my friends she doesnt know saw all this ) The next week she did not see him. She stayed with me. But on her phone she has talked to him a few times in the last two weeks, once she initiated contact the others he did. He also sent her a lot of sexy pics she lushed over...saying he has a lot to offer...she is wet...etc. He tried to get her to come over. She said she was tempted but did no go. He texted her the next day trying to get togetjer. She told him not to be pushy about getting together and not to send pics. He appologized. She then called him later they talked about 5 minutes. Their last conversation was 25 minutes after he called her and she called him back. She also started a game with him on her cell but only played one day. She swears they are just friends and loves me. I love her. She is successful, available often, but has 3 young kids. I have 1 young daughter as does she. I am 44 and divorced from an ex who cheated. I am very successful. She is 32, beautiful, great in bed, no limits on sex whenever I want. She wants to be married and live together some day. Should I believe her? Could they just be friends? Might she be over her ex? Might she not be over him? Edited May 9, 2015 by whitelakeguy
Sweetescape910 Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Come on. What do you think? This womens a whore and if she'll cheat on her ex husband she'll do it to you. Have some respect for yourself and walk away. No amount of sex is worth a bitch who doesn't give a damn about anyone. 7
Author whitelakeguy Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 People do change. I know she hasnt had sex with him since she was caught. That was almost 4 weeks ago. Does anyone think she might go back to him even just for sex? I give her plenty of sex. I have a huge house and am very successful. Her ex has an old house and is less financially secure. He cant offer what I can. I live 30 miles from her. He is only 10 miles from her. He is also much closer to her workplace. Thats his only advantage. He proposed to her in March. She said no. But she had him take pictures of her wearing the ring and had him send them to her. I thought that was odd.
aloneinaz Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Dude, really?!?!?! You need to work on yourself esteem cuz most confident guys would have kicked her whore ass to the curb a LLLLOOONNNGGGG time ago...
jen1447 Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 How do you know all the things you say in your first post?
Price2Play Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 I hope this is a troll. Jesus man get your head straight! 1
fireflywy Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 If this all truee, and if you're not JoshCube, then I say its time to "Next" this woman. 1
fireflywy Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 How do you know all the things you say in your first post? Well, if her ex called the OP saying that nd she didn't go ballistic when the OP told her what happened and totally, ouright block her ex, then regardless of whether all the other stuff happened or not, she's in a state of indifference into how her reputation is being broadcast and doesn't care what such manipulations may do to her relationshp. She's gotta gooooooo! Lol
seminoles84 Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Obvious whore is obvious. Ok maybe that's a bit harsh..
joseb Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 How do you know all the things you say in your first post? I'd like to know that as well. OP?
Author whitelakeguy Posted May 10, 2015 Author Posted May 10, 2015 (edited) Like what part? I know as factual everything I posted. I know what her ex bf has told me and what ive seen in her phone and what my friends have seen and heard. She doesnt know my friends. Edited May 10, 2015 by whitelakeguy
Jonp219 Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Like what part? I know as factual everything I posted. I know what her ex bf has told me and what ive seen in her phone and what my friends have seen and heard. She doesnt know my friends. And you stay with her because...? 1
Author whitelakeguy Posted May 10, 2015 Author Posted May 10, 2015 Absolutely amazing sex and companionship. Im asking if its possible I can trust her now.
Toodaloo Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Absolutely amazing sex and companionship. Im asking if its possible I can trust her now. She is using you and using sex to keep you... No you can not trust this woman as all. Your choice is your own but if you are looking for a stable relationship this is not the woman to try and have that with, you will be on your next divorce and messed up in no time. Try going for a woman that treats you with respect. They are often good in bed too... 3
fireflywy Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Absolutely amazing sex and companionship. Im asking if its possible I can trust her now. Seriously? You know what, you should stay with her. She sounds like a 10. Oh, and by the way, the absolutely "amazing sex" she gives you, that is being cultivated somewhere else. You yourself say she is hyper sexed and likes to show off so yeah, you aren't the only guy. Yep dude, stay with her for the sex. Oh, and don't worry about contracting anything. I'm sure she's COMPLETELY trustworthy. You lucky dog you. /sarcasm off 2
quattrob Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Absolutely amazing sex and companionship. Im asking if its possible I can trust her now. No offence there has to be something wrong with you to even consider her at least not the way she is now.. "friends" with that dude that he's been sending sexual pics and communicating with this guy will only end up her in his bed. The fact that you needed to ask if she can be trusted means she cant be.
Simon Phoenix Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Absolutely amazing sex and companionship. Im asking if its possible I can trust her now. Is this a serious question? I mean, if you just want sex and don't care about anything else, then perhaps you can continue this. But if you want an actual monogamous, romantic relationship you need to run away from this like you're Usain Bolt.
SoThatHappened Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Dude, This woman sounds like the nightmare girl that got me to this site. Run, man. Trust me, I didn't listen to the warnings (from her friends and family and my family) and it almost cost me big time. You need to run away for your own good.
ravfour4 Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 To sum up your post: "This girl is completely untrustworthy, can I trust her?" No.
Author whitelakeguy Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 So no one is really answering my question. Does anyone think they might just be friends and not having sex?
jen1447 Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Like what part? I know as factual everything I posted. I know what her ex bf has told me and what ive seen in her phone and what my friends have seen and heard. She doesnt know my friends. Well most of what you wrote sounds like hearsay honestly. Seems largely dependent on what this guy is telling you. Six months in her boyfriend called me. He had found my address because she emailed him on Facebook from my house and facebook included my address. Facebook doesn't know your address unless you tell it to them. Suggests the guy is running a game. He told me had been with her the past 2.5 years. They had been having sex regularly, sometimes the same days she had sex with me. She had been lying to both of us about where she was. She told us both she loved us. Her bf also told me she cheated on her husband of 12 years the last 2 years with 5 guys including her friends husband for 2 years. Was any of this ever substantiated at all? I confronted her. She made some excuses and swore she was done with him. What exactly did she admit to? Now I find out not even a week later he asks her to be friends. She went to his house to talk. She asked him to keep their friendship a secret. Found out how? She also met him at the bar and danced sexually...no kissing...talked to him a lot about their past relationship...then left at about 2:30 am after sitting in the parking lot holding handsand talking. ( my friends she doesnt know saw all this ) It's virtually impossible to see what two people are doing in a car at night. It's hard enough just being able to see that there are two people in a car at night. Your friends would have had to be virtually right on top of them. The next week she did not see him. She stayed with me. But on her phone she has talked to him a few times in the last two weeks, once she initiated contact the others he did. He also sent her a lot of sexy pics she lushed over...saying he has a lot to offer...she is wet...etc. He tried to get her to come over. She said she was tempted but did no go. He texted her the next day trying to get togetjer. She told him not to be pushy about getting together and not to send pics. He appologized. She then called him later they talked about 5 minutes. Their last conversation was 25 minutes after he called her and she called him back. She also started a game with him on her cell but only played one day. So you're doing the snooping thing already I take it? That implies you already don't trust her. She swears they are just friends and loves me. I love her. She is successful, available often, but has 3 young kids. I have 1 young daughter as does she. I am 44 and divorced from an ex who cheated. I am very successful. She is 32, beautiful, great in bed, no limits on sex whenever I want. She wants to be married and live together some day. Should I believe her? Could they just be friends? Might she be over her ex? Might she not be over him? Bottom line IMO is none of this adds up very well, and even if you take it all at face value, the easy conclusions are no, you shouldn't believe her (lies means no trust), no, they're almost certainly not just friends (plenty of 'evidence' to the contrary), and no, she's not likely over her ex (all this interaction says otherwise).
Simon Phoenix Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 So no one is really answering my question. Does anyone think they might just be friends and not having sex? It's a stupid question, that's why no one is answering it.
joseb Posted May 11, 2015 Posted May 11, 2015 Like what part? I know as factual everything I posted. I know what her ex bf has told me and what ive seen in her phone and what my friends have seen and heard. She doesnt know my friends. I guess this piece below: He also sent her a lot of sexy pics she lushed over...saying he has a lot to offer...she is wet...etc. He tried to get her to come over. She said she was tempted but did no go. He texted her the next day trying to get togetjer. She told him not to be pushy about getting together and not to send pics. He appologized. She then called him later they talked about 5 minutes. Their last conversation was 25 minutes after he called her and she called him back. She also started a game with him on her cell but only played one day. was what seemed too much detail for you to know, but I guess when you say "i've seen her phone" you have either got some spyware on it, or taken it from her and spent time going through it. Either way, you obviously don't trust her, and with good reason. The reason no-one is answering your question is, I think, because they are not sure you are really seriously asking it when the answer is so obvious, based on what you have written.
Author whitelakeguy Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 It may be, but I wonder if anyone thinks its possible they are just close but not in a sexual way. I wouldnt know if they got together for sex thats the problem. I dont understand why she still has ANY contact with him as she is mostly with me and tells me she loves me.
SoThatHappened Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 To answer your question: She's banging you both. She knows she has you, so she's USING you and likely using him too. Don't be delusional if you think they're just holding hands. That mindset is why you're in this situation to start with.
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