Sweetescape910 Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 I never thought I'd come on this again but here I am. I'm really upset. I was dating two guys in the summer, and the first guy i dated was named kevin. I dated him for 2 months to find out he wasnt ready for something serious so I ended it because I'm looking for a relationship. I started dating the second guy (keith) after kevin, and keith ended it with me because he wasn't ready for a relationship. If any of you guys recall, Keith was a sociopath. He got mad at me a month or two after he ended it because I started liking his friends photos on instagram. Keith was so upset at me and started calling me rude names. Keith has always liked me, but he didnt think he could be in a relationship because he doesnt like the idea of having a girlfriend. So we stopped talking. I started dating Kevin again, and this time around he was REALLY serious about a relationship with me. Until one day he ended it because his parents werent accepting of me (long story, but it had nothing to do with me personally as a person). Anyways, he ended it with me and I found out that same exact night he has been screwing another girl.. I was so upset because me and Kevin were very serious about eachother, or so I thought. I instantly went back to Keith because I thought that i didnt care about him anymore. We started making out and throughout the 3 weeks I was seeing him, all those feelings i used to have with him resurfaced. It resurfaced with him too, but not enough to have a relationship with me. He told me he was screwing someone else while we werent talking, and they dont talk anymore because that girl wanted a relationship and he didnt. I asked him if he liked her, and he said "not enough. but i didnt think about a relationship with her. i thought about one with you because i like you" i wanted to know the deal, so two weeks later i asked him if he saw potential with me. he said i do like you i just dont see it going anywhere. i asked him "how am i supossed to be the girl for you if you dont give me a chance to see if i am?" this is the part where i got really upset: he said "no like, she has to be the one. she has to change me, i cant force it. she has to strike me that way." and i asked: so its not me? thats what youre trying to say? he said yeah. so we ended things and i feel like crap that he didnt give me a chance to get to know me. he wants it with a girl that he KNOWS shes the one. i feel so ****ty with both situations. keith really helped me get over kevin, but now im hung up on both of them. i know i shouldnt have gone back to keith, but i really didnt think my feelings would resurface. i just dont understand whats going on with keith. he said he liked me and everything, he told me he did see potential with me, and so on. can somebody please tell me ill move on from both of these guys? i feel like ive taken two of the worst blows ever... hearing youre not the girl that can change me and basically being cheated on by kevin. thanks.
jen1447 Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Never date a Keith or a Kevin, especially not back to back. They both sound like players hon, not sure what the big loss is. I know it's always hard to take rejection, but it's just big girl panties time. Deal and move on, and look for better quality guys. 1
darkmoon Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) you remind me of myself, tbh, you are ready for committment, your agenda is set, but guys will instigate whatever we both need to play our cards closer to our chests and let the men we like talk about what they want before we do, and plz, no sex til they have proved themselves and are in our lives in a reliable way, live and learn xx Edited May 9, 2015 by darkmoon
Author Sweetescape910 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 you remind me of myself, tbh, you are ready for committment, your agenda is set, but guys will instigate whatever we both need to play our cards closer to our chests and let the men we like talk about what they want before we do, and plz, no sex til they have proved themselves and are in our lives in a reliable way, live and learn xx Lol you're funny! I def will play my cards right. I learned actions speak louder than words. And def no sex with either of them, thank god I dodged a bullet on that one it's funny cause when Keith got mad at me he called me prude and stuff. But def no sex until they committ themselves to you. It's scary these days, people can lie and be manipulative and look ACTUALLY genuine. I thought I was good at detecting that but he'll no lol 1
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