xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Somehow, my womanly intuition was right- if I got into a new relationship, my ex would come back into my life. Recently, I got into a new relationship. For all those who remembered my last post about " age differences", I finally decided to overlook this issue and accepted C for who he is. He was the one who really changed my mind about a lot of things. We hung out a couple of times since my last post which allowed us to get closer. Yesterday, after a class together, we went to lunch as a group with several classmates. We hung out in Chinatown and had an informal picnic at a playground. From there, C and I broke off from the group and headed to the Bedford section of Brooklyn. He was from Brooklyn and wanted to show me the neighborhood he grew up in. We got coffee and went to a nearby park to just sit and watch high school kids play baseball. After that, he took me to the outer areas of Brooklyn where we could see the Manhattan skyline, and from there, we just spent our time laughing and talking. We also took pictures from his cellphone. He was trying to become a professional photographer on the side, and I helped him out with several view shots. All I can say is that I'm finally, really happy. I didn't feel any pressure from him about anything. We were going at my pace where I wasn't wanting to take anything to the physical level and he was respectful about my feelings. He helped me bring out my inner child and I find myself wanting to spend more time with him. Now, the bad part is that my ex decided to drunk call me last night at 3 in the morning. He is not really a significant ex because we had dated back in February but he dumped me 3 weeks later. He (S) and I were friends (we no longer talk although I try to be courteous), and the three of us hung out as a group. We are all classmates, but C never knew I dated S. The only reason he is contacting me now is because C told him he and I were dating. I strongly feel that S is jealous and that is why he drunk called me and asking me to hang out with him. He was slurring his words and said he dialed me by mistake, and then he asked me if I wanted to hang out with him because he lived nearby me. I told him no and I would have appreciated it if he didn't drunk call me again. Then I hung up. I don't need all this drama in my life when I'm finally happy. I don't understand why S is doing this to me. He was the one to break up with me first, and right after that, I did a lot of things to try to get back with him. He turned me down 4 times and made me look like an idiot for chasing him. S made it specifically clear right after he broke up with me that he will only see me as a friend and will never date me again. He even told at the time to date other people. I even sunk into a deep depression and is only now taking care of myself and moving on. I didn't tell C because it is something so insignificant and not something that I'm proud to bring up. I have no intention to come in between their friendship which is why I haven't told C. I find S incredibly manipulative and I don't have any interactions with him save for polite conversations in class. I guess I'm a little angry and unnerved by all of this. Why is he doing this to me?
Versacehottie Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 honestly, who cares why he is doing this?! You handled perfectly and that's all you can do at the moment. Good luck with your new relationship. ps C is 99% probably doing it for ego reasons, not that it should matter to you. keep being happy
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 honestly, who cares why he is doing this?! You handled perfectly and that's all you can do at the moment. Good luck with your new relationship. ps C is 99% probably doing it for ego reasons, not that it should matter to you. keep being happy C is the guy I'm currently dating so it's not an ego boost. He didn't know S and I dated before, so him telling him was simply he considered S his close friend. If this was a one-time thing, I'll let it be. I really hope S does not come in between me and C.
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