lilmoma1973 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Hey all, Need some definite input.. my h left a stable job he had been working at for more than 7 yrs to go work with his dad to help him out .. my h dad owns a roofing buisness ,he painted a pretty picture making him think he would take care of him and it would be ok.. this job was a major disaster and i didn't want this to happen.. i didn't agree one bit .. some days he brought home a paycheck a few times that was good then his dad gets a loan for h to help with our bills then after that he starts taking the paycheck and most of the time he would come home with 50 dollars a week. we were in a bind really bad and it wasn't like this till he left his good paying job with benefits .. we started going to conseling because fil and mil was butting into our buisness .. fil was being controlling of h if he needed money for anything had to ask his dad .. that was getting old.. our counselor finally said that he needed to go back to the other job and get away from his controlling dad.. we almost lost everything and it was all because h dad made him think he would be ok leaving his good job to do roofing.. my h and i were at the point were we was going to split and he decided to go back and things are better.. h dad will not talk with him and when we go to his house for anything he acts like he can't stand to be around never says anything.. my h been gone from the roofing a couple months and h dad still won't talk with him .. he made a comment to my mil that the reason he won't talk to h isn't that he is mad at him .. he is mad because h won't leave me.. i am through with this man and have no use for him.. he treats my daughter like she doesn't exist and im not taking that .. he can hate me all he wants but why punish my daughter it isn't fair to her.. he has never been a father to my h and i hate that he has to be that way but h knows how dad feels about me and he won't go around him.. i feel bad for my h but in way im glad he is away from him .. this is a very cold hearted man and think women are to bow down to a man and stay at home and never go anywhere while he goes everywhere.. when h was around him it made him a person i couldn't stand to be around.. my counselor said he thought that i intimidated my fil because im such a head strong women and he likes when women are whimpy and im not like that... tell me what you all think about this situation..
Author lilmoma1973 Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 HEY Westerner, thanks for the reply .. definitely very stressful in my marriage and aggrivating..mil is always making it seem i hate ss too.. fil thinks that im staying here for my h money.. i am a stay at home mom and fil thinks i should be working .. i would be but daycare is outrageous .. my h pefers i stay home with daughter .. i would have to have day care on weekends hubby works so i would pay alot.. my friend paid in daycare this yr 10,000 thats way too much and i know if i got a job it would pay for daycare and gas that would be it ..what would be the point.. i think fil is a hypercrit his wife stayed home and he didn't have a problem ..mil is living off of h dad now so whats the diff atleast hes my husband .. they aren't even married they got together a couple of yrs ago after fil wife died .. mil don't even love him she uses him because she has no where to go..
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