Cougaryoungerman Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 So for the last three weeks I have been on an work conference. I met a co worker who is ten years younger then me. For three weeks he was very flirtatious saying comments I was beautiful and the nicest person he met, I tried not to lead him on. So I politely accepted his comments and didn't do anything to encourage it. Anyway last night I went to the pub with my team to celebrate and he was there, when he saw me he ran and picked me up span me around and whisper in my ear I love you ( yes this happened in front of my team ), he proceeded to say flirty comments all night , I am attracted to him so I decided to finally flirt back. We had a few shots and drinks, he kissed the side of my face on my cheek and we held hands under the table so no one could see. We then went out side the pub, I was thinking just a fun Pash, he turned around and asked me to be in a relationship. I said he was to you he is 20 and I am 30, he said how he has a car and job and just as good as any older guy. I wanted some fun but made sure he knew there wasn't going to be a relationship. After that we decided to head back to my hotel to spend the night , he asked again if it meant we were having a relationship. I said no because of our ages. We had fun and slept together three times through the night . The sex hurt me a bit because he is actually well endowed . Anyway I was having a great time and he too. But in the morning he changed, we made love a little bit but couldn't continue because I was still hurt, I told him he had been rough the night before . He then asked to use my shower and I said yes and he appeared angry when he got out of the shower. He said he had to go and he was cold in the way he spoke and not affectionate like he had been for three weeks. He left at 7:30am , I followed him down got a coffee and he just left , said a quick bye. After he left I found one of the tops he had been wearing and left behind . I texted him to see if I should post it back and he said niche doesn't need It , he asked if I got home safe and he will see me soon. I thought he seemed open to chat so I asked him if I could ask him a question, he said sure what's up? I asked him if I hurt him because of this morning and how he left . I said he didn't need to leave so early . I asked him if I did anything? Well he has spoken to me since. I miss him already. I just want to know what's going on.
katiegrl Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) It sounds like it was ALL about the *chase* for him, and once that ended (i.e. you had sex), it was all over for him. Are you surprised, he's 20 for crying lot loud, and a very immature 20 at that! I mean spinning you around and telling you he loves you? Then asking for a relationship before you've even had a date? What were you thinking? Basically, his brains were below his belt, and once he satisfied *that* urge, he now feels nothing. It is just immaturity hon, chalk it up. He may start acting flirty again when he's horny, but don't fall for it... Sorry. Edited May 9, 2015 by katiegrl
loveweary11 Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) He wanted morning sex and didn't get it. ALL guys feel the way he acted when they are horny in the morning and don't get morning sex. As we gain experience, we learn to hide it. We are still grumpy AF inside though. You should keep it simple and fun. He'll be back around. Go out for a drink with him again. Asking him about feelings and worrying about his is being a little doormat like. Be colder than that. He'll be back. Edited May 9, 2015 by loveweary11
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 He was either all about the conquest or he doesn't want an LDR. Another possibility was that as painful as the sex was for you it was equally not enjoyable for him because he knew he was hurting you, had to hold back & didn't get what he wanted the next morning. His deplorable behavior tells me he was a ONS mistake on your part. Donate the shirt or get out your frustrations by ripping it to shreds but realize he's history.
katiegrl Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) He wanted morning sex and didn't get it. ALL guys feel the way he acted when they are horny in the morning and don't get morning sex. As we gain experience, we learn to hide it. We are still grumpy AF inside though. You should keep it simple and fun. He'll be back around. Go out for a drink with him again. Asking him about feelings and worrying about his is being a little doormat like. Be colder than that. He'll be back. ALL guys feel that way when they don't get morning sex??? Are you freaking kidding me dude? I have NEVER had a guy feel OR act that way! And they weren't "hiding" anything. And I have had three long term relationships, including current of 5+ years. Maybe that's how YOU feel, but you don't speak for ALL guys. How old are you anyway? I thought you might be older and thus more mature, but perhaps I was wrong about that. dOnnivain is right, his behavior was deplorable...especially since she was physically in pain from the night before. He's an immature insensitive asshat, and she should chalk it up and move on. Edited May 9, 2015 by katiegrl
katiegrl Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 I remember being physically in pain in the morn, after a particularly rough night of sex, and my bf felt so bad, he went out and bought groceries and made me my favorite breakfast!!!! Not call guys are insensitive clods the way this bozo was..
Gary S Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 He loves you and wants a relationship after knowing you for only 3 weeks? He sounds like a player or at least a very good actor.
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