asparkle Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 There’s a guy I’ve been friends with…we dated a couple months before the following happened. So…one Tuesday, before I leave for a business trip, we spent the day together. I come back from the following Monday and I call him up. He doesn’t pick up and I never get a call back. The following Thursday I called again to say “hey, what’s up?” Same thing…no response. I finally talked to him the Monday after and I ask “what’s going on? Is everything okay?” He replies “oh yeah, everything’s fine. I just haven’t been in a good mood lately”. I ask if he’s dating anyone else and he says no. Then the following week I run into him at a baseball game and he’s holding hands with another girl!!! He sees me and he immediately drops her hand! Considering we we’ve been friends for a few years now I would think he would at least tell me the truth! If he told me sure I would have been hurt but I would not have lost any respect or trust. But why do guys choose to take this road and just ignore the situation at hand and not talk about it with the girl?
curiousnycgirl Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Because they don't know how to handle whatever emotion you may express after they tell the truth. I know it's not a good answer, but......well what can I say?
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Originally posted by curiousnycgirl Because they don't know how to handle whatever emotion you may express after they tell the truth. I know it's not a good answer, but......well what can I say? Word. Could be he didn't want to hurt your feelings.. and it could be as well that because the 2 of you aren't dating exclusively he really didn't feel he "Owed" you anything know what I mean? Perhaps he thought in telling you that yeah he's dating other people that would ruin the possibility of you still wanting to date him... Regardless... I never trust anyone who drops the hand of the person they are with in the effort to appear single.. it's disrespectful and IMO not okay.
faux Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Telling the truth is not as easy as lying, despite the ramifications lying can bring. It doesn't make any sense, but people don't usually do things that make a lot of sense.
nzchick Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 This guy I like (read my is he into me or not thread) lied to me too. It was a small thing but I know that it shows how he thinks. I know I shouldnt read into it too much but yeah.. he might be thinking im needy somehow. Coz the first time he texted me he said he was using this IOU service by his cellphone provider, meaning he's $-2.. he just borrowed 2 dollars off the cellphone provider.. so he's actually gonna hve that deducted from his prepay once he tops up. Anyway, so he told me he's trying to save his credits on his phone when we were texting.. I told him okay i understand. The next day I texted him goodmorning, our group of friends were gona have lunch in the city as well so we were gona see each other that day. When I got to the lunch place, everyone was there except him. I texted him and I said, hey mel told me youre coming, you okay? Then he did come after an hour with 3 of his friends. He didnt want to eat because he got friends with him and he knew it would be rude if he ate lunch with us and his other friends will be left outside waiting. So yeah I understood that... in other words he came all the way from the shore which is like 20 mins away from the city just to say hi to us.. or to me? I duno.. I guess he just wanted to go to the city. So anyway back to the credits on his phone. I was with him last night in this party and I got hold of his phone. I checkd his balance and rang the operator.. he got f*ck*g FIVE DOLLARS in his phone! I was so pissed coz why did he have to lie?!??!!?!?!? It's not like im gona be soooooo needy and desperate that I'm gona keep texting him and whine about how much I want him to text back. BULLCRAP. Made me so angry.. but then, he explained.. and he kept saying sorry like 20 times. He told me he was saving his credits for really important stuffs coz he aint working till next week and he wouldnt have money. I still didnt forgive him .. and I was rude to him in front of his friends.. but he was super nice to me even if i was mean. So yeah I guess I understand him now.. BUT I STILL DONT LIKE THE FACT THAT HE LIED COZ HE PROBABLY THINKS IM GONA BE SOOO NEEDY. GRR!!!!! MEN!
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