Astron Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 We broke up yesterday after 2 years and I woke up with such an awkward feel...if it's the right decision!? We loved each other and... I don't think I will ever find someone to love me like her. She was devastated, although the decision was on both sides, at the end of discussion she started to not want anymore to break up. We had several argues and fights in the last year and with each one I started to become more afraid of this relationship and I slowly closed myself. Our relationship got stuck and was not evolving anymore. I was afraid to move together with her (because I was not sure if it's worth), I was afraid to do things with her and we got limited. I loved her A LOT, but I started to not like her that much and slowly I was afraid to invest in the relationship, but I loved her and this kept us together. What did not working and started to bother me and hold me back? -Her low education background, -the not so good family she came from - I couldn't stand her parents, her brother, -the intellectual level (she was not catching always all jokes for ex.) and she has a lack of common knowledge (basic history, geography, politics, etc.), -I had to spend so much time to teach her things that she should have known at her age instead for us learning new things (I felt like, me, personally, don't evolve anymore) -her, being jealous sometimes. -my parents didn't like her that much and were saying I deserve much better, which I also started to think after. -she became quite dependent on me and she didn't have friends, hobbies, etc. Her job and me were everything for her and sometimes she didn't give me enough space. These were the main reasons that hold my mind back to make this relationship work. But she was such a pure and honest soul, a such a good person that I'm afraid I'll never meet again. I don't know if I should try once more with her. She was probably the love of my life... 1
Bob Lee Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 She's much pity than you thought. Think about it. Born in the family like you said "not a good one", that might explain that she's got low education background. She didn't want it that way, nobody wants it. If you do love her, and understand this, come on, you wouldn't mind giving more spaces for her. She doesn't even have any friends or hobbies, don't you feel sorry, pity for that? Don't you think that she might change into someone worse than ever if you left her? 1
Author Astron Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 Yes, you are right from this point of view and this is what bothers me too... that she has no guilt for this. Of course I feel sorry and pity... this is probably why I made this topic. Not having friends or hobbies is not my fault though. I think I supported her a lot in these 2 years, but I feel I need more time for me. I'm not as happy as I was once. Maybe I'm egoistic, but I have to think also at me... if I was always thinking that I could be happier with someone else, I couldn't push the relationship further. So we got stuck in argues every month from every small reason. "Don't you think that she might change into someone worse than ever if you left her?" This statement scares me. ...one should stay with someone because of something worse could happen?
sober and dry Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Astron I can only believe that Bob Lee was being totally ironic/sarcastic...
Author Astron Posted May 10, 2015 Author Posted May 10, 2015 I don't know... Maybe I'm too confused and upset at this moment for sarcasm...
joseb Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 "Don't you think that she might change into someone worse than ever if you left her?" This statement scares me. ...one should stay with someone because of something worse could happen? No that is never a reason to stay with someone.
Author Astron Posted May 11, 2015 Author Posted May 11, 2015 How is it possible to love her, she loves me with all her heart and the relationship didn't work? I'm so disappointed to come at the conclusion that love is not enough! ...and it's very painful when it happens like this.
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