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Omg! I ran away from the first date today!!

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veggirl Established Member

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did you at least throw down money for your order? lol omggg, I can't even imagine doing what you did. incredible. did you think he was going to shank you right in the middle of the restaurant or something?! geeeeez. you sound paranoid. i hope you apologized with something a little better than just a one word "sorry".

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This guys pictures were good, he was attractive supposedly. We were going to a wine bar but I changed plans and told him to go to a restaurant because I was hungry, 15 min before we met.

 

1 weirdo point for you on this one. You don't do this type of thing. You stick to your original plans and grab a filling snack on your way.

 

Ok, we met and we walked to the restaurant. This guy was weird. He looked so insecure. We got to the restaurant and he waited for me to ask for a table (??) he was just standing smiling omg.

 

What's wrong with waiting for you? it's the gentleman way to do. Many of my dates wait for me at the door or in the entrance of restaurant.

 

Ok we sat and he just stared at me without talking!! I was trying to decide what to eat and drink, he said nothing. It was me asking him questions and he laughed at the most inappropriate moments plus he had one eye that twitched involuntary, he remembered of Hannibal lecter omg!!!

 

He is shy, probably suffers from anxiety, what did you do to relax the atmosphere? You're in a public place what do you think is going to happen, hannibal will jump on you?

 

We ordered and I was starting to look for an exit. The waitress brought the drinks, I sipped my mojito two times, looked at him, grabbed my purse, said I'm sorry and run away like crazy!!!

 

1 weirdo point for you

 

You think he's weird while you act as weird as he does, actually you were more weird than he was.

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road Established Member

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I had a bad one a few months ago. There was a break in just around the corner where I lived, and as I live in a nice neighborhood and crimes are a rarity, a ton of people went out to watch the police do their thing. Some women with her two young kids starts talking to me and blatantly starts flirting. She wasn't even close to my normal type, but I'm 25 and just thought "huh cool this milf is totally hitting on me". She even asked me to walk her and her kids home then offered her number to me afterwards. We end up going to get dinner the next day. The dinner was horrible, like she barely talked the entire time, didn't ask me anything. I just spent the 45 minutes rambling about stupid ****. I'm thinking to myself, ok maybe she just wanted to skip dinner and get to the fun part. As the bill was coming I ask her "hey want to come watch a movie at my place" which she said sure to. I get up to go to the bathroom and come back to find her missing and the bill left fully to me. I send her a text saying its rude to not even say thanks when someone just bought you dinner. She replies "you're a total weirdo! Don't ever call me again!".

 

I just laughed my ass off and texted the story to my friends. I mean she was 15 years older than me and asked me out on a date! What did she seriously expect if not a hook up? lol

 

 

Because a man buys dinner does not mean the women have to put out.

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cessna Established Member

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You didn't feel safe? Oh get a grip. You were in the middle of a restaurant, in public, what did you think was going to happen? Stop trying to justify your nasty behaviour.

 

Did it not ever cross your mind that maybe he was this why because women have given him a tough time in the past? Do you think running away is going to help his already (by the sounds of it) shattered confidence?

 

You put yourself in that situation by changing the plans last minute to a meal. If you went for drinks like planned you could have got away much easier had you needed to.

 

And lastly, it's pretty poor of you to run away and let him foot the bill. What a kick in the teeth for that poor bloke. Left there on his own, probably everyone else staring at him and now he has to pay for your cocktail you had two sips from before legging it and any food you ordered. Nice one, you sounds like a lovely bird.

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katiegrl Established Member

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You didn't feel safe? Oh get a grip. You were in the middle of a restaurant, in public, what did you think was going to happen? Stop trying to justify your nasty behaviour.

 

Did it not ever cross your mind that maybe he was this why because women have given him a tough time in the past? Do you think running away is going to help his already (by the sounds of it) shattered confidence?

 

You put yourself in that situation by changing the plans last minute to a meal. If you went for drinks like planned you could have got away much easier had you needed to.

 

And lastly, it's pretty poor of you to run away and let him foot the bill. What a kick in the teeth for that poor bloke. Left there on his own, probably everyone else staring at him and now he has to pay for your cocktail you had two sips from before legging it and any food you ordered. Nice one, you sounds like a lovely bird.

 

^^Completely agree with this (and the others).

 

And that eye "twitch" was most likely nerves, that happens to me too when I am REALLY nervous...

Gary S Established Member

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LOL, the guy looked like Hannibal Lector! I wish I had the nerve to walk out on some of my dates, but am a little too nice sometimes - which is not really a good thing. But, none of my dates have been that bad. I applaud the OP for following her gut. Safety first.

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brokengirl85 Established Member

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The more I think the more I believe I did right.

katiegrl Established Member

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The more I think the more I believe I did right.

 

I am wondering why you didn't just politely excuse yourself and tell him you had to leave. Give him your portion of the bill...and wish him well.

 

Why run out so dramatically, insensitive and rudely? Was that really necessary?

 

I think that is what everyone's issue is with this....

 

Your behavior was cold and insensitive.

 

Do you not recognize that?

 

And sweetie, your life was NOT in danger, come on now....

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Gaeta Established Member

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The more I think the more I believe I did right.

 

Why? At what point you felt your life was in danger? At what point was he rude or used inappropriate language with you?

LostOne1 Established Member

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I gotta say this was rude....

 

All you had to do was leave without doing it in a rude manner.

 

I feel for the guy a bit, I mean he might just be awkward or lonely. Maybe, he hasn't developed good social skills at all. But you running out like that probably beat down his ego.

 

I know it would for me for a bit. As for him contacting you... if I were him I wouldn't. Unless he wants closure as to WHY you left. Maybe he is confused, as he has no idea why.

 

Also, maybe he was shy? I've had those moments were I was super shy because she looked amazing. That I couldn't keep up with the chatter. It doesn't mean I am awkward, it just means I didn't know how to handle myself or that I got a bit nervous.

 

Everyone gets a bit nervous time to time.

 

But I just feel there was a "nicer" way to let the guy down.

Revan32 Established Member

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The more I think the more I believe I did right.

 

I'm sure you do. Its human nature to justify our own actions, no matter what. The truth is though, the real guys who are dangerous and you should watch out for, are most likely the one's who come off as the most charming. The guys who come off as weird never even get a chance. Look at a lot of the serial killers. Ted Bundy was known to be a handsome charming guy, who was good with women. For a less extreme example look at abusive husbands and bf's. They obviously don't smack the girl on the first date. They start by getting the girl to fall for them, then they get violent after she's attached.

 

Odds are this was just some completely shy and awkward guy who just wanted to have a nice date.

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katiegrl Established Member

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rams, please don't take offense to this, but if you really believed your life was in danger, so much so that you had to suddenly and dramatically run off the way you did, in a PUBLIC restaurant, when clearly you were NOT in any danger .......

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thread closed, since we cannot play nice. hopefully the thread starter got what she needed from the replies

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