Maisu Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) Hello, I am maisu and want to ask a question if I did the right thing breaking up with my 2 years GF. So, I'm 23 and she's 20 . We broke up once before, in fact she left me because I didnt put effort and She start dating someone else and came back to me again because he treated her badly. We last 1 years 7 months this round. Now this ROUND 2 last for 4 months. I ended up proposing to her 3 months later after we got back together. I know it sound stupid but she accept it she was so happy we are on our way on getting married.. Now I broke up with her 3 days ago because She act distant to me then she want some space. We talk. Her reason is that. She's not sure on marrying me cause she is afraid she might regret it. And she still want to enjoy being alone. And she's not happy with me and she also said she doesnt see future on me. She doesnt know what she want. She became so confuse on our relationship that she doesnt show me affection and trying to avoid me before that. This broke my hurt when i hear it. I became confuse. The love of my life that i though i will finally marry is saying this.Before we broke up We didnt see eachother for 1 week. and this is the time that made me sorrow. Realising that She left me again. All i did is love her.We have so many plans and yet shes saying this. We are engage and yet she will suddenly change her mind. I don't know where is my mistake I ask her yet its her own issue.I did what i could do. Show her affection be there for her. I've never smothered her. I let her do the things she want to do. I feel like a doormat actually. Even thougt she is not showing affection to me. but my guts was telling me "its over my friend this is as far you could go." when i hear her reasons. So i end it. Face to face telling her "I realise that you are right that you wont see future on me etc etc" "Accepting her reason telling her that i didnt regret dating her twice and even she became like that i didnt regret it" We part away our last word. So , I just give up and end it . I am confuse if i do the right thing. I miss my EX even though she did that to me. I dont know i dont feel any regret but i miss her and kinda confuse if i did the right thing? Edited May 9, 2015 by Maisu
fireflywy Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 You did the right thing. If she didn't know if she loved you and wanted to be alone, then she was never going to give or be the person you needed her to be. The great thing though is that you are very young. You have an entire world of women, capable of loving you rightly and justly to meet and make new memories with. You did the right thing. Never regret what she left you with to make your decision on.
crimsontactics Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Both of you are a little too young to get married. And I can tell from what you had written that she is still very immature by not communicating what she wants. Go on your separate paths first. If it's fated, both of you will be back together again. Stay strong!
Mr Scorpio Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 You absolutely did the correct thing my friend. I would guess that she went back to you for "Round 2" because you were familiar to her and that made her comfortable. You clearly wanted a lot more from the relationship than she does. When she says no, and goes back on something like engagement, all there is for you to do is walk away.
Author Maisu Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Its kinda sad what happened to us but its been 1 week and i still feel empty but i dont mourn anymore. She left me twice, Even worse if i had to respond today..i'd might let her in again. Pathetic.
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