pgirl9000 Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 I am a good looking pretty and smart women who is married. In a very weak moment in my marriage i went for a coffee date with my colleague who was very interested in me. I liked him. We met again and we kissed. It was very passionate which threw me. After this he changed, he would meet me only when he wants to and not when i want to. I felt hurt, still i could not bring myself to end this. He was very bold and daring whenever he was with me, never hesitated to sexually explore me. He is never with me more than 10 mins. It is usually in my car. He likes to suck my boobs and mostly kissing. He doesn't want to go further. He wanted to touch me down, but i have not allowed him to nor have i done blow job for him even after he requested many times. Please save the moral talks. I am too deep into this and feel like damaged goods already. Lately between the kissing, sucking he keeps touching me down there with my clothes on, which really turns me on. Ever since he started doing that, i feel completely turned on like i am on fire whenever i see him or hear his voice. This has never happened to me. I feel so bad that my body is deceiving me. I am wet and sleepless every night. No amount of sex or relieving myself has seemed to help me. I am not sure i understand what is going on with me. Most of the time i feel really shameful for having these feelings, feel very hurt and cry a lot. He does not want to see me as often as i want him to. He sees me once or twice a month, which is for like 10 mins. He has sexually teased my body enought and i could not take it anymore. It's like every inch of me is on fire, he is not ready to give me more and relieve me. This is causing me a lot of pain, rejection and hurt. I cry a lot in pain to forget him or not to have this lusty sexual feelings for him most of the time. The more i try to forget, the more it is on my mind. At this point i feel completely lost, out of control and depressed most of the time. I was not like this before meeting him. I used to be a cheerful person with lots of friends. Now the only thing i seem to think is about him. Every other thing has suddenly paled in comparison to him. I feel so helpless. I could not get my mind/body in control which greatly depresses me. Please help with this situation! I am going crazy!
Author pgirl9000 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 How about having sex with your husband? I have tried that a lot. But my husband is not very interested all the time. As we were never that active and had sex only once in several months. But even has sex regularly with my husband is not helping me. Whenever my husband makes love to me i feel as if it is my colleague and not my husband. I always imagine him instead of my husband, which makes me feel sad and shameful after that.
Sunyata Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 I have tried that a lot. But my husband is not very interested all the time. As we were never that active and had sex only once in several months. But even has sex regularly with my husband is not helping me. Whenever my husband makes love to me i feel as if it is my colleague and not my husband. I always imagine him instead of my husband, which makes me feel sad and shameful after that. Well, first of all, you are a female body and have every right to be feeling those feelings about the other man. It is natural. It's a difficult issue because your husband is clearly not turning you on the way you need to be turned on. Ideally, I think, both partners know themselves and communicate well prior to being married, so that issues like this arise in communication as they occur. It sounds like you probably went a long time not getting what you needing and also not saying anything. In any case, you have already went far with the man, but I think it's important that you have not had sex with him. I am inexperienced in relationships so I don't know, but you could probably cut it off now, get a vibrator, and try to get rid of your excess sexual energy some other way. Start communicating with your husband. How is your emotional/other relationship with him?
Cinnimon Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 Hun, you are having an affair and let me tell you that you are already in over your head. Please go read in the OW/OM section of Loveshack, it will be beneficial to your situation. It will destroy you. Stop it now or you will pay a HEAVY price.
Author pgirl9000 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 Well, first of all, you are a female body and have every right to be feeling those feelings about the other man. It is natural. It's a difficult issue because your husband is clearly not turning you on the way you need to be turned on. Ideally, I think, both partners know themselves and communicate well prior to being married, so that issues like this arise in communication as they occur. It sounds like you probably went a long time not getting what you needing and also not saying anything. In any case, you have already went far with the man, but I think it's important that you have not had sex with him. I am inexperienced in relationships so I don't know, but you could probably cut it off now, get a vibrator, and try to get rid of your excess sexual energy some other way. Start communicating with your husband. How is your emotional/other relationship with him? My relationship with my husband emotionally or sexually is not great. But the moment i think about my colleague, i remember how i felt when he touched me or kissed me and how very passionate and romantic he was even if it was for a little time. I feel like having sex with him, which i should not and but my body is dying to be touched and want to go all the way with him. He is married and does not want to go further. I am left thirsty and hanging with all these uncontrollable passion which can be satisfied only by him.
Author pgirl9000 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Posted May 9, 2015 Hun, you are having an affair and let me tell you that you are already in over your head. Please go read in the OW/OM section of Loveshack, it will be beneficial to your situation. It will destroy you. Stop it now or you will pay a HEAVY price. I am unable to stop. I have tried going to 2 different counselors for getting help, none of them has helped. I have tried relieving my constant and excessive sexual energy and tried distracting my mind with work and other things. But the moment i see him in office or hear him all i can think is him. All the feelings come back and hit me hard. I need help, i don't know how to block out all these dirty thoughts.
cessna Posted May 9, 2015 Posted May 9, 2015 I don't follow. You wont allow him to touch you "down there" but then you go on to say that he refuses to give you more. And how are you feeling dumped? You're a married woman cheating on your husband with some workmate. You were never in a relationship with this other guy. You're not getting any sympathy from me over here love. 2
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