blue16 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Lately i've been running into the 'boyfriend' roadblock. I'm interested in this girl, she gives me some signals that she likes me...but because she has a boyfriend I usually just let it slip away as I have no idea what to do. I don't want to try to steal her away from her guy, but at the same time it's hard to just let go of a girl you are very attracted to.
Illusion24 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Theirs plenty of fish in the sea...why go for the ones that are taken?? I think maybe you're just looking in the wrong places. The best you can do is be a friend, stay low and don't confuse her...Unless she tells you herself that she is interested...Then you take your actions but first she's got a commitment to someone else and needs to finish that...If that's what she wants...Try not to be the "other man", you'll most likely get hurt...
whichwayisup Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Don't do anything. If she is interested in you and wants you then she can break up with the b/f and hook up with you. Until that happens I would stay away cuz if you don't it's only going to make you want her more. And she's taken already.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 you pretend you are the bf, and think "how would i feel if my gf dumped me for some dude"
Author blue16 Posted April 23, 2005 Author Posted April 23, 2005 Theirs plenty of fish in the sea...why go for the ones that are taken?? Well...to be honest I never really 'went after them'. Just a few friendly conversations here or there and then I pick up some signals coming from her. I made sure to guard my heart and not get attached though. And ya there are lots of girls, but I can't exactly pick and choose which ones are giving me signals. Don't do anything. If she is interested in you and wants you then she can break up with the b/f and hook up with you. Until that happens I would stay away cuz if you don't it's only going to make you want her more. And she's taken already. Ok, i'll just play it cool and let her make a move if she wants. you pretend you are the bf, and think "how would i feel if my gf dumped me for some dude" Ok. I won't try to hit on them or anything, but at the same time theres nothing wrong with chatting with her from time to time right? I don't think just because I'm picking up on some signals means I should have to avoid her because she has a bf. But at the same time it's not fair for me to try to steal her away, you're right.
faux Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 If a girl does have a boyfriend, and she did leave him for you, what would you think about that girl and your chances of sustaining a relationship with her? If someone is taken I back off. I think it's respectable that you do the same.
Marshbear Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 And ya there are lots of girls, but I can't exactly pick and choose which ones are giving me signals. I don't understand why we thinkwe need assurance that our advances will be accepted before we approach? What ever happened to " I see a girl I like and I think I'll see where it goes". You have the right to ask any unattached women that you want to know her better. If she turns you down then you ask someone else. I think we need to get over that rejection is personal. If you ask 10 women the chances are good that 1 will accept. I say keep asking and dating until you find the mate or SO that you are looking for....
HoldOn Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 What to do when she has a boyfriend? NOTHING. Be alone or find a single girl. the end.
slubberdegullion Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by NeverSayNever The best you can do is be a friend... While I certainly agree that being the "other man" in the relationship is fraught with potentially disastrous results - even if the sex is great - getting stuck in the friend zone is probably just as bad. I've done both. It sucks. Walk away, wish her well, and get on with your life.
moimeme Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 at the same time it's hard to just let go of a girl you are very attracted to. We are designed by biology to want to reproduce. This means that being attracted to others isn't that uncommon. You will certainly find many more women to whom you're attracted. Now, finding compatible women is another issue entirely, but that's not what you asked about.
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