How does Fwb work

[confusedmandi]

How does a Fwb relationship or arrangement work. What are the normal "rules"

[CarrieT]

There are no normal "rules" - how the relationship works is defined by those in the situation.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

You define the rules with each other. Then you have sex.

[Mrin]

No hard and fast rules but:

 

1. No drop in visits - all visits need to be cleared in advance

2. No talking about each other's love lives unless you are way good with that

3. Use protection - every single time - unless you guys agree (and you trust him) to be sexually exclusive

4. Try not to sleep over unless it is drunk pass out sleep over

5. Avoid relationship-y things

6. Avoid relationship-y language. Don't say "make love". Say sex. Or the f-bomb

7. Never ever talk about the future

8. Avoid cuddling after sex. It is okay to lay there together but don't spoon each other

9. Don't leave stuff at his place or vice versa

 

Those are just some of the usual rules. It is all up to you but the general gist is to avoid relationship-y type stuff.

[confusedmandi]

I've had a booty call guy before. Is that basically the same?

[guest569]

Some may answer with "it doesn't"

 

To Mrin's "usual rules".. My only FWB, we stayed over and cuddled afterwards , there was eye contact and making out. Kinda relationshippy, maybe thats why it didn't work.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Doesn't matter what rules you follow, if you are like most girls, you'll eventually fall in love with a long term FWB. Most girls develop feelings for guys they sleep with.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Some may answer with "it doesn't"

 

To Mrin's "usual rules".. My only FWB, we stayed over and cuddled afterwards , there was eye contact and making out. Kinda relationshippy, maybe thats why it didn't work.

 

Some of this happens with my fwb, I feel us getting more distant though too. It feels good sometimes to just throw her across the bed and take her, but I feel like having that connection makes the sex a lot more enjoyable.

 

i think mrin is right.. But maybe some of us shouldn't fwb since we need that connection as part of sex.

 

Haven't seen my fwb in a week now that I think of it, and the last time was less than stellar.

[jen1447]

FWB is a state of mind, not a list of rules. You're perpetually unattached romantically, but you f*ck. That's it. I have lots of FWB.

 

BUT, if you're the sort who can't maintain those kinds of boundaries, you're not a good FWB candidate. There's no checklist that'll keep you from getting in trouble, just misunderstanding your own heart.

[katiegrl]

FWB is a state of mind, not a list of rules. You're perpetually unattached romantically, but you f*ck. That's it. I have lots of FWB.

 

BUT, if you're the sort who can't maintain those kinds of boundaries, you're not a good FWB candidate. There's no checklist that'll keep you from getting in trouble, just misunderstanding your own heart.

 

What is the difference between FWB and FB (f*ck buddy)?

 

I always thought FWB (friend with benefits) was exactly that ... a "friend." A friend just like any other friend, except you also have sex.

 

That said, do friends not care about each other, do things together OUTSIDE the bedroom, share experiences with each other, and other things friends share and do with each other?

 

The only difference between FWB and a romantic "relationship" is that there are no deep romantic feelings for each other, although they do care about each other, just as they would any other friend. ...they don't have sex with.

 

On the other hand, I always thought FBs were people you simply got together with to f*ck, and that was it..

 

Am I wrong in my interpretations?

[jen1447]

No, I think you're pretty much right. Sorry if I didn't explain the distinction well.

 

F*ck buddy is a person you get together with (and make an arrangement with) specifically just to have sex. Not really an existing friend that you decide to have sex with.

 

I think genuine F buddies are pretty rare, FWB more common.