sapphiregirl Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 (edited) Two weeks ago, this guy and I had a great first date. At the end of the evening, we were both keen to meet again and we organised to meet the following week. Then he dropped me home and we kissed. So, the day before we planned to meet again, he cancelled saying he was sick. So, we postponed to Saturday. Saturday morning - I texted just to check we were still hanging out, but he replied saying he had totally forgot because his cousin was visiting whom he hadn't seen in months, and he had been busy with him. He was VERY apologetic, saying sorry about four times. He said he wanted to reschedule and I said that was fine. But we didn't actually plan another precise time. I was going to leave that to him to get back to me. Since this conversation, he hasn't texted in about five days. Perhaps he's trying to let me down gently. What do you think? Should I text him again? I don't want to appear desperate. I'm confused, because on our date he seemed extremely into me. I should add we are both in university (not at the same one) and also have jobs, so pretty busy. Edited May 7, 2015 by sapphiregirl
Gaeta Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 After date 1 did he kept in touch with you? How often? Honey, you don't forgive a man for forgetting you. He's automatically out of the game when that happens. If a man stays more than 2-3 days without touching base with you it means he's not that interested in you. 4
GTR King Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 looks like he wasn't that interested in you. you could try texting him again & see what he says 1
No_Go Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 You can text him but... if he responds at all, he'll probably just make another excuse. He's not interested since he let 2 weeks pass without seeing you. He may have met s.o. that he likes more after your date, decided that there are deal breakers... It doesn't matter in the end. I had a similar experience and thought over it way more that necessary too, it is human (woman) nature. Move on and see who else is out there for you:) Two weeks ago, this guy and I had a great first date. At the end of the evening, we were both keen to meet again and we organised to meet the following week. Then he dropped me home and we kissed. So, the day before we planned to meet again, he cancelled saying he was sick. So, we postponed to Saturday. Saturday morning - I texted just to check we were still hanging out, but he replied saying he had totally forgot because his cousin was visiting whom he hadn't seen in months, and he had been busy with him. He was VERY apologetic, saying sorry about four times. He said he wanted to reschedule and I said that was fine. But we didn't actually plan another precise time. I was going to leave that to him to get back to me and reschedule. Since this conversation, he hasn't texted in about five days. Perhaps he's trying to let me down gently. What do you think? Should I text him again? I don't want to appear desperate. I'm confused, because on our date he seemed extremely into me. I could tell we both felt something! 1
chantos Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 He's probably dating other girls and maybe things went faster with another girl and there he goes. You didn't do anything wrong and contacting him yet again will come off as a little desperate. I hit it off well with a girl at a party one night but things didn't progress fast enough for me (wink wink) so I mentally moved on. Then work got absolutely crazy for a week and I realized I'd totally forgotten to respond to any of her calls. I wasn't trying to be a dick, I'd just look at my phone, make a mental note to call her, then forget all about it until a week or two had passed. Point is I wasn't that interested in the girl even though we'd had good vibes while hanging out. If I'd been interested, I definitely would have contacted her within 3 days much less 5.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Conflicting stories. He cancels one day because he's "sick" but then he's fine enough to hang out with "his cousin" who he just happened to forget was coming to town? Very flimsy at best. Since you've only had one date in two weeks, and he hasn't made any effort to do a firm re-schedule, I'd say just take it at face value and date other guys.
scooby-philly Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I agree with the other statements. Guys, unless they're total asses with money, , looks, etc, show interest in a women then it's real. It's actually nice to hear that you were ok with the whole change of plans. However, if it's been 5 days since that last message - let it go. Maybe the cousin thing and illness were true, but something else happened or he met someone in the interim. It's okay to feel disappointed. But reaching out at this point will only give him power. Even if he's just been super busy, he'd at least text or call and leave a message. If he does, it's up to you to decide. Better have a good explanation and you better believe it. 1
El Pallasso Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Text him again and schedule something up. He may have forgotten.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 Text him again and schedule something up. He may have forgotten. Speaking as a guy, I can say that if I like a woman, she is on my mind. I wouldn't flat out forget her, unless I wanted to. LOL Plus, let's say there's a small chance he actually forgets. Would she want to date that big of a flake anyways? It's a win-win in either case for her to move on IMO. 1
Leigh 87 Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 Text him again and schedule something up. He may have forgotten. Only desperate women do this. Terrible advice. 3
Redhead14 Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 Two weeks ago, this guy and I had a great first date. At the end of the evening, we were both keen to meet again and we organised to meet the following week. Then he dropped me home and we kissed. So, the day before we planned to meet again, he cancelled saying he was sick. So, we postponed to Saturday. Saturday morning - I texted just to check we were still hanging out, but he replied saying he had totally forgot because his cousin was visiting whom he hadn't seen in months, and he had been busy with him. He was VERY apologetic, saying sorry about four times. He said he wanted to reschedule and I said that was fine. But we didn't actually plan another precise time. I was going to leave that to him to get back to me. Since this conversation, he hasn't texted in about five days. Perhaps he's trying to let me down gently. What do you think? Should I text him again? I don't want to appear desperate. I'm confused, because on our date he seemed extremely into me. I should add we are both in university (not at the same one) and also have jobs, so pretty busy. The ball is in his court. When you leave the ball in his court, you let it stay there until he hits it back period. You don't reach out to him again. If he takes a while to hit it back, during that waiting time, you should be evaluating how that made you feel about him. If he takes a while, you'll probably either be losing interest or feeling like he just isn't interested enough in you, if you're being honest with yourself. 1
stillafool Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 Don't text him. Forget about him, he's not interested. 1
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