Gochelseablues Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I like a lot about her and was all fascinated when I first met her. Felt like we'd get married,etc. You know the story. We've dated for a few mos. And she wants her freedom. She's so back and forth. We'll hangout, be physical,etc. But she still doesn't want a commitment. I can tell there would be great potential there. But I'm very well aware of my worth and if a girl doesn't want to be with me. I won't waste my time. I explained this to her. When she recently said the whole "I'm not ready for a relationship yet,etc" thing. I took it as she's not ready for a relationship with me or she is just too unfortunate to realize who's asking to be a part of her life. My issue is this. We had stopped talking, but saw each other, being we know the same friends hangout the same places,etc. It was very cordial. Later that day she calls me up and really has nothing to say. I'm hoping she had something serious or profound to say. But nope nothing of substance, all small talk. I'm through with it. My heart wants her but my head knows what's right and Its not emotionally healthy for me to be called up and stirred up,etc. What do I mention or say to her, especially since I'm bound to run into her again??
dangerbang Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I like a lot about her and was all fascinated when I first met her. Felt like we'd get married,etc. You know the story. We've dated for a few mos. And she wants her freedom. She's so back and forth. We'll hangout, be physical,etc. But she still doesn't want a commitment. I can tell there would be great potential there. But I'm very well aware of my worth and if a girl doesn't want to be with me. I won't waste my time. I explained this to her. When she recently said the whole "I'm not ready for a relationship yet,etc" thing. I took it as she's not ready for a relationship with me or she is just too unfortunate to realize who's asking to be a part of her life. My issue is this. We had stopped talking, but saw each other, being we know the same friends hangout the same places,etc. It was very cordial. Later that day she calls me up and really has nothing to say. I'm hoping she had something serious or profound to say. But nope nothing of substance, all small talk. I'm through with it. My heart wants her but my head knows what's right and Its not emotionally healthy for me to be called up and stirred up,etc. What do I mention or say to her, especially since I'm bound to run into her again?? Tell her the truth. You don't want a casual relationship and you want to be with someone who is dying to commit to you. It's a fair enough stance on your part and I totally get it. Well done on winning the league too
SLee Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I agree with dangerbang, tell her the truth. My ex and I were together 3.5 years and when I was finally ready for a commitment, he didn't want it. I still with him for another two months-ish (lease is up in summer) and he's still pushing the "let's be friends" thing. How this relates to you, is that my ex still wants me around even though I told him that if he doesn't want to be with me, it's not happening on a friend level or any other. Stand your ground. You know what you want in life and out of a partner. Tell her the truth. You can even be nicer if you want and tell her it makes you uncomfortable or something. Be cordial when you bump into her, but that's it.
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