GeeziG Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Hello everyone I would like to start of by saying thank you for taking the time out to read this post and any feed back is more than welcome! About six months ago I started dating this amazing tauras female, I'm a Virgo which might not have anything to do with anything but the chemistry and connection was amazing from the start! We got along great had a lot of similarities, values and just overall chemistry, however she was or has been in a on and off relationship with a ex boyfriend for about eight years so I assume high school since we are both 26 now. During the initial phase of our dating we had long conversations about past relationships and what went wrong blah blah and through that I found out that this guy cheated on her with three different women and had one pregnant but she lost the baby during this time they were living together and she packed her things and left. It's been about a year and a half and Since then she's dated other people but never really felt any of them were worth her time until she meet me so she said. We spent countless time together days, nights weekends even couple dates and trips. Don't get me wrong I know six months isn't anything when you look at the big picture but this relationship took off like a rocket. We had our common relationship hiccups here and there but we always talked and worked things out, but to get to the juice during the six months of our relationship she had a trip planned to aruba and to my knowledge this trip was planned with her and her friends we spent countless time talking about how excited she was to go, shopping working out together all in prep for this trip which she is currently on now. Her birthday was last week on Thursday so we spent Wednesday, and Thursday together. Friday night she had a section at a club reserved for her and her female friends and I wasn't invited which was cool it's your bday do your thing is what I kept telling myself. She even told me that she would hit me up after the club to come stay with her. My mind set at that point was to call up a friend and go do my own thing so I did, but what I found out changed everything. The guy I hit up was a mutual friend of the both of ours and when I called him he told me that this tauras woman was going out of the country with her ex boyfriend of eight years and he was going to purpose, also that he was going to the party that Friday night! I was in awe, but I played it cool I didn't mention anything about it to her until she called for me to come over that night,but by this time she has already known I knew because her ex comfronted her about me. So when I got there she went into this whole spill about how she just found out he was going and that he didn't fund the trip, I went on to tell her about the proposal and she was upset saying idk how he expects to go to Aruba and propose after how bad he hurt me and that he needs to not waste him time because the answer is definitely NO! She was crying upset and angry by this time but said I could stay with her of course I left. The next day her ex called me and told me that she's a liar and that he paid for the entire trip and he didn't know anything about me until that Friday night and when he asked who I was she said a homeboy! Yeah ****s crazy right... She texted me later that day saying if I believe him over her than that's fine and if after all the time we spent together wasn't real to me then she was going to pray that I forgive her one day! Since then I ran into the mutual friend that told me in the first place and he told me that everyone that went on the trip seems to be posting pictures all over social media expect the two of them so he doesn't think the proposal will stand, but at this point it doesn't even matter our entire relationship was based on a lie and a ploy for what? I still don't know! As much as I'm hurt, I know that I can never take this girl back if she came around so all contact has been blocked even though she doesn't return until this Sunday. I guess my post is mostly for comfort from the loveshack community and just wondering why she would lie for so long knowing about this trip and still lie to me after the truth came out? I just don't understand. If she wanted to be back with him why not just take him back and go on the trip spare my feelings God sakes!
smackie9 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 She has issues, she's broken, immature and lacks proper coping skills.....this is why she has never been able to have a successful relationship of any kind. She's mentally a hot mess.....so sorry you got caught up in it.
Redhead14 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Hello everyone I would like to start of by saying thank you for taking the time out to read this post and any feed back is more than welcome! About six months ago I started dating this amazing tauras female, I'm a Virgo which might not have anything to do with anything but the chemistry and connection was amazing from the start! We got along great had a lot of similarities, values and just overall chemistry, however she was or has been in a on and off relationship with a ex boyfriend for about eight years so I assume high school since we are both 26 now. During the initial phase of our dating we had long conversations about past relationships and what went wrong blah blah and through that I found out that this guy cheated on her with three different women and had one pregnant but she lost the baby during this time they were living together and she packed her things and left. It's been about a year and a half and Since then she's dated other people but never really felt any of them were worth her time until she meet me so she said. We spent countless time together days, nights weekends even couple dates and trips. Don't get me wrong I know six months isn't anything when you look at the big picture but this relationship took off like a rocket. We had our common relationship hiccups here and there but we always talked and worked things out, but to get to the juice during the six months of our relationship she had a trip planned to aruba and to my knowledge this trip was planned with her and her friends we spent countless time talking about how excited she was to go, shopping working out together all in prep for this trip which she is currently on now. Her birthday was last week on Thursday so we spent Wednesday, and Thursday together. Friday night she had a section at a club reserved for her and her female friends and I wasn't invited which was cool it's your bday do your thing is what I kept telling myself. She even told me that she would hit me up after the club to come stay with her. My mind set at that point was to call up a friend and go do my own thing so I did, but what I found out changed everything. The guy I hit up was a mutual friend of the both of ours and when I called him he told me that this tauras woman was going out of the country with her ex boyfriend of eight years and he was going to purpose, also that he was going to the party that Friday night! I was in awe, but I played it cool I didn't mention anything about it to her until she called for me to come over that night,but by this time she has already known I knew because her ex comfronted her about me. So when I got there she went into this whole spill about how she just found out he was going and that he didn't fund the trip, I went on to tell her about the proposal and she was upset saying idk how he expects to go to Aruba and propose after how bad he hurt me and that he needs to not waste him time because the answer is definitely NO! She was crying upset and angry by this time but said I could stay with her of course I left. The next day her ex called me and told me that she's a liar and that he paid for the entire trip and he didn't know anything about me until that Friday night and when he asked who I was she said a homeboy! Yeah ****s crazy right... She texted me later that day saying if I believe him over her than that's fine and if after all the time we spent together wasn't real to me then she was going to pray that I forgive her one day! Since then I ran into the mutual friend that told me in the first place and he told me that everyone that went on the trip seems to be posting pictures all over social media expect the two of them so he doesn't think the proposal will stand, but at this point it doesn't even matter our entire relationship was based on a lie and a ploy for what? I still don't know! As much as I'm hurt, I know that I can never take this girl back if she came around so all contact has been blocked even though she doesn't return until this Sunday. I guess my post is mostly for comfort from the loveshack community and just wondering why she would lie for so long knowing about this trip and still lie to me after the truth came out? I just don't understand. If she wanted to be back with him why not just take him back and go on the trip spare my feelings God sakes! Well, there is a "his word" and "her word" conflict here. Usually, when two sides are conflicted, the truth is somewhere in the middle. In the end, though, she was going on a trip with her ex and didn't tell you. I'd be willing to bet she thought he might propose and she wanted to hear that "proposal" for an ego boost and further boost her ego by telling him no. Her not telling you the truth about the trip was to keep you in the wings for her return. Either that or she was using both of you and playing you against each other to get that proposal. She's not a mature woman and you are right to move on.
Author GeeziG Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 Thanks for the responses definetly keeping NC just trying to figure out how to handle the situation if she comes to my place
Redhead14 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Thanks for the responses definetly keeping NC just trying to figure out how to handle the situation if she comes to my place If she is bold enough to come to your place unannounced, you simply turn her away and tell her she is not welcome there and if she continues to show up there, that you will call the police. Don't be wishy washy. If she calls you beforehand, you tell her you do not wish to discuss the situation further and that you will be no contact from this point on.
Author GeeziG Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 She's already been blocked on my social media and cell phone, and I don't think she would care enough to pop up just speaking in a what if type of situation
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