Jump to content
While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted
It really is heart breaking

I'm lost , crying , and so on

It's like my life has ended , how can I go on

This pain is unbearable

 

Yes it is heart breaking. You should be crying....that's normal. Your "old" life has ended and now is the opportunity to begin a new one. The pain is very uncomfortable but not unbearable.

 

Put things into perspective.... It's difficult I know but think about explaining yourself to a terminally ill person who has a short time left on this earth.

 

You just ended a LTR. 15 years is a long time and it will also take a long time to move on. Give yourself a break. You need to make a plan for yourself. Begin to journal your feelings to get them out.

 

Ultimately she ended the relationship. She told you she no longer has feelings for you. That's OK and doesn't make you a bad person. You deserve to love and be loved back. Begin to build yourself up stronger and one day you will look back on this experience and know it was for the best. It's very difficult to see the forest if only focus on 1 tree.

 

Post here when you need to. These people are pretty smart on here. Good luck!!

  • Like 1
Posted
Just broke down this morn

This feeling is like no other . I'm trying to stay strong

This situation has completely took over

What am I supposed to do

 

Cry it out. I've been there. Cried, non stop for 2 weeks on the floor. And what made it worse was that the one person who I had to lean on in tough times, was the one causing it now.

If functioning is hard, or being around people, go to a park, walk for hours if needed. It clears your head a bit, and the fresh air and exercise really do help.

 

Take it one step at a time.

 

Losing your home, SO and lifestyle all at once is like losing your life essentially. But you can go on. Just breath through it and it happens around you. The pain and panic do lessen. You'll build a new life.

You have an opportunity to completely start over. (I know that's not what you want to hear right now) but you will slowly regain yourself.

 

Cry it out - eat well (healthy) Drink enough water. Get some level of exercise. The body's physical condition helps with its mental one :)

  • Like 3
  • Author
Posted

Thanks to those who have replied

I've just sat and had a chat with her mum

I broke down again , her mum is angry

At her because so much is at stake and she went through a similar break

But what can she do really Other than ask

How things are , etc . If her daughters mind is made

Up she isn't going to change it .

Posted (edited)

Geez... sometimes it so hard to read the replies on these boards.

 

NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP ENDS BECAUSE OF CHEATING!

 

NOT EVERY SPOUSE IS A LIAR!

 

NOT EVERY SPOUSE IS THE DEVIL!

 

My 17 year marriage ended the exact way the OP appears to be happening. THERE WAS NO CHEATING! (It is possible with your ex, but do not focus on that!) My ex wife *needed* to be alone as she had buried a lot of stuff from her upbringing and could not be a fully emotionally supportive wife when she needed to fix her own issues.

 

SHE BURNED OUT. NOTHING MORE.

 

2 years later (we are very good friends to this day) after tons of counseling, she was ready to repair. Sadly by then, *I* had moved on.

 

Please STOP projecting what has happened to you as the be all end all of what is taking place with every poster. Offer opinions but please do so that it is just that; an opinion. Not fact.

 

OP,

 

Sadly, you are in for a very, very, painful ride. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to process what is happening however your body chooses to do so. You need to get away from her as soon as possible as it may not seem like it, but just seeing her is going to trigger emotions. They never hit the day they are triggered. They hit you two days later...

Edited by frigginlost
  • Like 1
Posted
Thanks to those who have replied

I've just sat and had a chat with her mum

I broke down again , her mum is angry

At her because so much is at stake and she went through a similar break

But what can she do really Other than ask

How things are , etc . If her daughters mind is made

Up she isn't going to change it .

 

 

Same here. His dad had talked to me and said he didn't understand what was going through his mind. And didn't agree with what he was doing, and thinks maybe it's a mid life crisis thing. He said my ex even started yelling at him.

 

Just hang in there best you can.

Posted

She could def still be cheating. I dated a woman for 4 years, she acted distant for a few weeks and started working out, then said she couldn't do this anymore and that she fell out of love. She slept here everynight and was rarely gone

 

Found out she was meeting up with a co-worker at the gym and probably going out to lunch/dinner with him from time to time when I was at work. Checked her phone and saw "i love you" texts, she denied it nonstop, I didn't believe her, I thought she was lying, but she was so adamant about it that I let her trick me into believing her. Once I found out the truth, I realized my intuitions had been right the entire time.

 

always trust your intuition, not your lying partner.

×
×
  • Create New...