DaaatGirl Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Hey Guys, this my first time posting something like this.. Well I just confessed to my crush yesterday and am already regretting it! worst of all, I did it on whatsap not even face to face so I havent been able to see his reaction. Actually be fore i told him i said please don't answer this just log ouf and say nothing, cuz he was about to go out.. and that's what he did, he just said good night, so here is the message : I like you since October, I went out with another guy but nothing changed.. I can't hold it anymore so i'm telling you this so i can move on. goodnight. Actually i always thought that the guy likes me in return cuz he made signs of it, like looking at me in class and talking to me, and his friends made it obvious when he sat next at me in class sometimes, he even touched my face once or twice when we were talking.. but he never made a move.. and I couldnt take it anymore i started to like him even more these days so i just confessed, i dont know why i did it this way, but i just did.. Please help ! What should i do now ? should i avoid him ?or should i act normal, does his reaction mean that he rejected me ? I have class this afternoon and I don't know how can i meet him there PS : before i confessed i also told him that there is a strong possibility i wont talk to him after i say my secret, he said just say it !!!
Toodaloo Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Right girl you need to develop what is called "balls". It is perfectly normal for you to crush on guys. You should not be ashamed of a crush. So hold your head up high. Say yes - I think your a good looking guy and I may be interested in you then let him work it out while you get on with your life and have fun! Being all silly and hiding is just daft. If he says anything derogatory about it just respond with "Oh well I will probably be crushing on someone else next week so it doesn't matter" and keep your head up! Just be yourself, act normal and carry on! In finishing school they teach you that if your knickers fall down while dancing you just step out of them leave them where they are and simply collect them and put them in your purse once you have finished your dance. Same principles apply. Yes you got embarrassed but worse things happen at sea! Chin up chook! 5
stillafool Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Why are young people having such a hard time confronting people? Is it because they spend too much time communicating by text and aren't used to talking to people? 2
Author DaaatGirl Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 Actually I'm not that young I just turned 21.. but it's really hard to tell someone that you like him face to face..
stillafool Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Cute: 21 is very young honey, enjoy your youth as you are just getting started. 1
Author DaaatGirl Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 Thank you so much for saying that, i seriously felt like a granny on my birthday :3
Toodaloo Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Thank you so much for saying that, i seriously felt like a granny on my birthday :3 Give it another 30 years and then come back and tell me how you feel! Seriously don't worry. Best way is always to be upfront and not faff about it but hey ho. He knows now and ball is in his court. 1
Author DaaatGirl Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 Give it another 30 years and then come back and tell me how you feel! Seriously don't worry. Best way is always to be upfront and not faff about it but hey ho. He knows now and ball is in his court. Thank you so much!! I just walked infront of him with confidence. It's not like i killed somebody there is nothing wrong about liking someone! 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 OP at least you were straightforward, more than can be said for a lot of Women. You might have surprised him with your directness even if it was over text lol.
preraph Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 If he does like you at all, now he is confused why you said not to respond. Apparently he is very obedient, which isn't good. Your only best move here in class is to give him a big smile, complete with full teeth display, which will make him feel that he can and must say something. If you act all inward, he will too. 2
Author DaaatGirl Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 If he does like you at all, now he is confused why you said not to respond. Apparently he is very obedient, which isn't good. Your only best move here in class is to give him a big smile, complete with full teeth display, which will make him feel that he can and must say something. If you act all inward, he will too. he's totally ignoring me i cant find the chance to give him a big smile..
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 he's totally ignoring me i cant find the chance to give him a big smile.. His loss 1
PogoStick Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Could you translate that please. What was his response?
d0nnivain Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 He's ignoring you because he doesn't know what to do either. Let's take a look at the learning pieces here: 1. Do not have emotional discussions via electronic means. No tinder, no Apps, no FB. no text. If the subject is emotions, life face to face conversations only & a phone call in a pinch. Hiding behind your electronics makes things worse, not better. Even if he liked you, doing this made him Q your maturity level & brought more negativity to the subject then anything. 2. Declarations NEVER work. Instead of announcing that you like him & confessing to him, you simply should have flirted with him. Subtle is usually better. With rare exceptions, the fastest way to catch a man is to let him chase you. Consider those points next time you have a crush. For now be as normal as possible around him.
Author DaaatGirl Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 I'm just gonna move on i think it's not meant to be and i made a big mistake when i confessed in that way. thank you so much everyone i really appreciate your help
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