GarrusVakarian Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I was dating a girl I met on POF last year for 6 months. First relationship since my marriage breakup. She called it off mid August last year. She said I wasn't a priority to her at the moment, her new job was. She had become quite distant over two weeks. But wouldn't say no in the future. It was going brilliantly until that point, made plans to go away and for the future and she made me happy. I accepted the break up, very little else I could do about it. So I moved on and tried to forget. Went out had fun met new people and generally kept busy on other things. I have been on a lot of dates and met a lot of new people since, but none have really pushed my buttons the way she did, well maybe a few. But it wasn't mutual!. For the most part I had put her to the back of my head, but there are times when I think of her. Anyway, I saw her while driving in town the last week for the first time in eight months with her sister. It just reminded me how crazy I am still for this girl. What made it worse was I saw her back on POF on the evening that same day and it showed me has she has moved on. She has most likely seen me on there as well. I cant see us ever getting back together as much as I think I would like to. She has blocked me on all forms of social media etc. Even though I haven't made any attempt to contact her and probably wouldn't even try. Guess, ill keep doing what I have been doing!. Anyone else been in a similar boat or going through the same?.
Toodaloo Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 You found another woman once. You can find another woman again. Chin up chook. The one who does love you back and who isn't going to hurt you is out there somewhere. 2
RoseHeart Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Sorry to hear about what you're going through. The good thing is we're all in this together. Each of us on here have some kind of heartbreak inside of us and are in the recovery process. A few lucky ones have made it and have recovered and that's the inspiration that should make the rest of us hold on. There will come a day when we'll meet somebody great who we'll fall for again. I'm positive that it will happen. It just requires us to have patience and to carry on with our lives to the best of our ability. When we do find love again we'll be able to appreciate it even more and all the pain now would be worthwhile. Hang in there ))
Toodaloo Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Garrus A very long time ago I was living with a chap. OK so we were not married but we were living together and I was step mother to his children (all of whom I adored). I loved this man like no other. The very ground he walked on was worshipped by me. I absolutely adored him. When we split up it broke me. For a really long time I didn't think I was capable of loving anyone again. I dated. Most of which were long term relationships lasting between 3-5 years and living with the person. I figured this was it for me. My heart was broken and would never be fixed. Then last summer something happened. I loved again. OK so it all went a touch Pete Tong after about 5 minutes but thats OK. The reason why it is OK is because it showed me that I am capable of loving someone with the whole of my heart again. I figure third time lucky. Perhaps for us both eh? 1
OK_computer Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Garrus A very long time ago I was living with a chap. OK so we were not married but we were living together and I was step mother to his children (all of whom I adored). I loved this man like no other. The very ground he walked on was worshipped by me. I absolutely adored him. When we split up it broke me. For a really long time I didn't think I was capable of loving anyone again. I dated. Most of which were long term relationships lasting between 3-5 years and living with the person. I figured this was it for me. My heart was broken and would never be fixed. Then last summer something happened. I loved again. OK so it all went a touch Pete Tong after about 5 minutes but thats OK. The reason why it is OK is because it showed me that I am capable of loving someone with the whole of my heart again. I figure third time lucky. Perhaps for us both eh? lol Pete Tong
GoBlue Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Yep - been there - still am. You can't do anything to erase memories because that's what life is as you move forward one day at a time. You can, however, determine how those memories control your present life. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that you are still crazy for this girl, but you seem to be handling it well without being crippled by the loss. You may never forget her but she will move farther and farther into the past - especially when you find someone else who is just as crazy about you as you are for them. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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