Boymeetsgirl Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 So she dumped me. Supposed lost feelings but I'm guessing her last ex is messing with her mind and she compared her feelings. And I was outta there So I pour my heart out in a massive message (bad I know!) and she responds saying that she doesn't believe I loved her but just the idea of her and that shows as I'm adding lots of new girls on Facebook recently and I just want anyone. So what is she getting at? Is she jealous? Being honest? Making excuses? I assured her my feelings were real and I'm not one to easily share and that was hard for me to write. And again she messages saying "yet you write me that while adding girls on Facebook!". I assure her again I'm genuine and tell her what a hard time I'm having with the break up (yeah I know all school boy errors). Then radio silence. So I send a message a few days later basically telling her how much she meant to me and wished her the best and hinted that I knew her and the ex were in contact then told her not to let herself get hurt again. Said I was there for her but I have to move on now and take care. Now nothing.. Tumble weed. Question is.. What the heck about the seemingly being jealous about Facebook and thinking I didn't love her really!?!?
Ruby65 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 She's annoyed because she'd rather having you waiting around as her Plan B option in case things don't work out with her ex. She's tossing you a bone by pretending to be jealous of these girls and doubting your feelings for her, because she probably knows you'd drop all those girls for her in an instant. It's ridiculous -- she wants you on the backburner while she sees how things go with her ex. She's angry you're not complying to her satisfaction. *** Also, you should have her blocked on Facebook. 1
charliemorgan Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 It sounds to me like it was an excuse. Sounds like you adding the girls on fb is all an excuse for her to have a reason why she broke up with you when its most likely that she had more stronger feelings for her ex and that you had gotten in the way of that, and now she feels she can blame you because you're looking at other girls.
Twigyy Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 The games you two are playing are too childish really. I don't know why both of you are still stalking each other on Facebook, sending messages on how much they mean to you, then ignoring each other. To answer your question, maybe, maybe she is jealous, but so what? She has already made up her decision, and she won't think twice. Your playing of hard to get, telling her that you wish her the best, that you have to move on, and trying to read her actions even after the break up, is one big reason why she won't take you back, or dumped you in the first place. I can tell that you posting this in this forum, you do want your ex back, to a certain extend. But I can tell you that most of the people here, or almost all of them, do not have their exes on their social media, or even contact them for months when their ex asks for reconciliation. The point is that exes only come back when they see you truly move on, and not with these mind playing games. Keep posting, and everyone would be glad to help.
RoseHeart Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 She wants attention from you. Nothing more, nothing less. It doesn't mean she's jealous or wants you back. It just means she wants a reaction from your side. She wants you to stroke her ego by telling her how important she is despite her not being with you. She's the dumper so really.. you shouldn't have to convince her of anything. It's on her to convince you that she's interested in you and wants you back. Not the other way around. This whole thing is just a reflection of her wanting to see what you'd say if she challenges you about other girls. It's basically her testing you to see if you still like her and would drop everything for her. You fell into her lap in regards to that. You need to break off the communication with her and move on.
OK_computer Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 The games you two are playing are too childish really. I don't know why both of you are still stalking each other on Facebook, sending messages on how much they mean to you, then ignoring each other. To answer your question, maybe, maybe she is jealous, but so what? She has already made up her decision, and she won't think twice. Your playing of hard to get, telling her that you wish her the best, that you have to move on, and trying to read her actions even after the break up, is one big reason why she won't take you back, or dumped you in the first place. I can tell that you posting this in this forum, you do want your ex back, to a certain extend. But I can tell you that most of the people here, or almost all of them, do not have their exes on their social media, or even contact them for months when their ex asks for reconciliation. The point is that exes only come back when they see you truly move on, and not with these mind playing games. Keep posting, and everyone would be glad to help. Correct, but even then so very rare.
Chi townD Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Question is.. What the heck about the seemingly being jealous about Facebook and thinking I didn't love her really!?!? It's just her excuse that she's using to ease her guilt. You know she's back with the Ex. So, her excuse that she's using is that you added girls to your facebook. That's all the excuse she needed to excuse her behavior and not feel guilty and justified in her actions in her own head. 1
Ruby65 Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 OP, I'm sure people here have advised you already to go NC and cut contact, block her on Facebook and your phone and everywhere else..... What are your thoughts about that?
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