sanne Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 For this past month and a half I feel like i've been eeking my way through life, I go to my classes do my homework and try to hang out with my friends as much as I can. I don't like feeling like I'm wasting away my days so I try to be as productive as possible. Honestly, this is all helping a little bit, but I still feel so empty inside sometimes. The back and forth with my ex has now officially stopped, I made a decision to stop sleeping with her and to stop hanging out with her. I wanted more and she just wasn't ready to start dating again, so I told her it would be best if we just stopped seeing each other altogether. So here I am now, all by myself again, and right now all I want is to be able to not think about relationships or get sad about my life. I want to be able to focus on myself and school, but it just seems like nothing I try is working. I want to meet someone new, someone who can make me forget all about my ex, I don't even care if it's just a friendly relationship either. I just need to get out of this hole I'm in.
snoop_dawg22 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 You're going through the healing process. This is the time when you'll feel pain and the heartache feels like it will never go away. I really can't give you some secret to getting over someone b/c the thing is that it takes time. It takes time to heal and be whole again. I would sugguest continuing what you're doing now and don't dwell on the past. You can not go back and change anything that has happened thus far. During this time focus on you and your happiness. Not on relationships and especially not on your ex. I would say NC is the best way but it is also the hardest thing to do. But it is up to you if you're really ready to move on and be happy. Keep posting and talk with friends. I find that talking about my breakup ( but not constantly ) helps. And while discussing I end up hearing about other people's problems and I forget about my own. Stay strong and by all means keep your head up. Do not be defeated.
Author sanne Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 defeated? not at all. I've never had such a strong urge to make something out of my self and to do something with my life. I know that this will only make me a stronger person.
beejsea2 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Sanne, I know how you feel!! I too what to get better and show not only him but myself what a great person I am and how I'm better without him!
Author sanne Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 i'm thinking breakups are something that we all must go through at least once in our lifetimes. The lessons learned are invaluable i think.
snoop_dawg22 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 defeated? not at all. I've never had such a strong urge to make something out of my self and to do something with my life. I know that this will only make me a stronger person. I'm glad you feel that way. Not trying to be difficult but shed some light on the breakup. Did you feel this way when you were with her? I was so in love with my ex. I quit being and lived for him. Now without him I see how it is to do for and live for me and it's something that I haven't done in 3 yrs. I also learned to not let a RL consume all of me. It's a learning process indeed.
beejsea2 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 I've been through a few break ups before this one. I guess the other ones were easier because we talked about them face to face. My ex had no integrity and slithered out while I was at work. I know that it's going to make me stronger and make me really look before I leap in the future!
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