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You wanna be a doormat, go right ahead.

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Originally posted by westernxer

You wanna be a doormat, go right ahead.

 

I don't.

 

Jesus wasn't a doormat either and doesn't expect me to be one :)

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

 

 

Because life with her in it is whole-heartedly better than without.

 

Hard to explain, but she's my friend too....

 

i mean, yes, you know her and intimate details and still care for her. but you are putting YOURSELF First.

 

and right now, you are putting her in your place. why do you not want to deal with you?

 

we should have stopped talking about this ex already.............

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

i mean, yes, you know her and intimate details and still care for her. but you are putting YOURSELF First.

 

and right now, you are putting her in your place. why do you not want to deal with you?

 

we should have stopped talking about this ex already.............

 

Ok, I freely admit I am an idiot and am not following you.

 

How do you mean?!

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she is not the problem.......

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

she is not the problem.......

 

Oh I know.

 

And I've heard some varying degrees of advice but I still don't know how to set the seeds of being the kind of guy that women will want to keep. I can get dates easily, I just can't keep them because I fall too hard, too fast and I can't keep my cool.

 

How do I keep my cool?!

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

Jesus wasn't a doormat either and doesn't expect me to be one :)

 

Don't bring religion into this... this is your own doing, not the will of some god of choice. You don't know how Jesus feels on the matter, since he never brought it up.

 

Remember, ex-Marine, all is fair in love and war. Time to slap on that uniform and get tough. Don't fold over like some infantry unit.

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Think more with your Penis (your head) and less with your heart.

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Originally posted by westernxer

Don't bring religion into this... this is your own doing, not the will of some god of choice. You don't know how Jesus feels on the matter, since he never brought it up.

 

Remember, ex-Marine, all is fair in love and war. Time to slap on that uniform and get tough. Don't fold over like some infantry unit.

 

You mean like the Army guys :)

 

Spirituality plays a lot into my life but I don't think that God put me into this position. I just haven't looked to him enough for direction.

 

Think more with the Penis huh?! Haven't heard that said to be before, lol.

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

How do I keep my cool?!

 

jes be yerself, COC....you'll see that everything will be fine :laugh:

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

Jesus wasn't a doormat either and doesn't expect me to be one :)

 

Jesus also wasn't known for pulling a lot of ass. :D

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Originally posted by alphamale

jes be yerself, COC....you'll see that everything will be fine :laugh:

 

That's the problem. Myself isn't cool.....

 

I'm not cool.

 

I don't know how to be reserved.

 

I don't know how to meter my feelings so that I don't absolutely suffocate the one I love.

 

I suck, I know.

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Originally posted by tanbark813

 

 

Jesus also wasn't known for pulling a lot of ass. :D

 

 

he could get a chic knocked up tho!

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Originally posted by tanbark813

Jesus also wasn't known for pulling a lot of ass. :D

 

Ah, but my goal isn't to pull a lot of arse.

 

It's to be with only one for the rest of my life. I know who she is. I screwed up by gushing all over her and even if I can't fix what I did with her, I need to learn how to avoid that next time.

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

Ah, but my goal isn't to pull a lot of arse.

 

It's to be with only one for the rest of my life. I know who she is. I screwed up by gushing all over her and even if I can't fix what I did with her, I need to learn how to avoid that next time.

 

But see, if you were at a point where you knew you could get a lot of ass, even if that's not your ultimate goal, then that would naturally help you from suffocating the one you find that you want for the rest of your life (and that wants the same of you, of course).

 

Be one with the ass, grasshoppa.....

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Originally posted by tanbark813

But see, if you were at a point where you knew you could get a lot of ass, even if that's not your ultimate goal, then that would naturally help you from suffocating the one you find that you want for the rest of your life (and that wants the same of you, of course).

 

Be one with the ass, grasshoppa.....

 

I think that's where the "think single" comment came from earlier. Think like a single guy, even when you're dating.

 

Be good to yourself.

 

Don't be a doormat.

 

Don't be pushy or suffocating.

 

And yes, I have no problem talking to women. It's the google-eyed, love drunk monkey I become. I need to learn to curb THAT :D

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

That's the problem. Myself isn't cool.....

 

I'm not cool.

 

I don't know how to be reserved.

 

I don't know how to meter my feelings so that I don't absolutely suffocate the one I love.

 

I suck, I know.

 

hmmm, COC, sounds like you've been taking self-loathing lessons from JOEL. Maybe you should hook up with him for part II....self-hatred.

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Originally posted by alphamale

 

 

hmmm, COC, sounds like you've been taking self-loathing lessons from JOEL. Maybe you should hook up with him for part II....self-hatred.

 

 

which is why i suggested he read the posts by Joel........ we basically beat it into him t0o. good advice in those posts.

 

and thinking single........ same as thinking with your d!ck.

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Originally posted by alphamale

hmmm, COC, sounds like you've been taking self-loathing lessons from JOEL. Maybe you should hook up with him for part II....self-hatred.

 

Not even remotely true.

 

Joel lacks self confidence. I don't. I can approach a woman in a bar, anywhere and say hi and spark up a conversation. I am friendly like that.

 

What you're not getting is this in a nutshell:

 

Not in love = Mr. Cool

In love = Mr. Doofus

 

See what I mean?!

 

I don't feel sorry for myself nor am I seeking a pity party. I am seeking GOOD ADVICE on how to not go to pieces when hit with the cupid arrows. How not to move too fast. How not to seem desperate to hold on to whom I love - even when I know I am not desperate.

 

I think I need to see HITCH. Maybe that would help?! LOL

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At least you're able to diagnose yourself and see where the trouble lies...

 

I guess you just have to learn not to shed your armor so quickly (if at all). But, hey, it's not like I or anyone else hasn't fallen into this trap before. The difference is not to repeat yourself.

 

I recommend "Swingers."

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Originally posted by westernxer

At least you're able to diagnose yourself and see where the trouble lies...

 

I guess you just have to learn not to shed your armor so quickly (if at all). But, hey, it's not like I or anyone else hasn't fallen into this trap before. The difference is not to repeat yourself.

i agree Westy~ identifying the problem helps....... but seeing that you have a thorn in your foot and not taking it out, does you about as good as not even seeing it anyways.

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

i agree Westy~ identifying the problem helps....... but seeing that you have a thorn in your foot and not taking it out, does you about as good as not even seeing it anyways.

 

Well that is what I am asking for. The "know how" to get the thorn out for good....

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and we are talking and talking and talking.........

 

YOU have to do.

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

and we are talking and talking and talking.........

 

YOU have to do.

 

I know, I know.

 

Feel single. Act single.

 

I just don't know how to act like I don't care when I love someone, you know? I want to be with them all the time.

 

With her, I could be with her every minute and not get tired of her. I love her that much.

 

I know I need to learn to pace myself. It's my greatest weakness.

 

Learning to slow down and take things easy.

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You take it out an inch at a time... it's a big thorn, so just roll with it.

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