locabs Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 (edited) I'm currently talking(?) to this guy, but I'm kinda confused as to where I stand. We met off tinder, but not on purpose. Long story short, after 2 years of snapchatting we bumped into each other at the bar. I don't think we would have ever met if it weren't for the accidental bump in. I go to an out of state school, and he works back in my hometown. One drunkenly night I texted him around 2AM and decided I wanted to hookup with him. (March 2015) Went to his place, had sex, stayed the night, and jetted out in the morning (I hate lingering). I didn't expect anything from it. Texted him when I got home saying "sorry for the run out. I had a fun time!" He replied with "I had such an amazing time with you" In my mind, done.The following day he texted me saying "did you say your dad is Kyle Smith" and I said "yes." He replied "oh wow. uhm I'm your dads financial analysts. I'm working on a deal with him to sell his practice." I thought it was funny / a small world. We talked about it, then at the end of the conversation he asked if I was doing anything later that evening. I said no. He ended up taking me out to a small concert that his buddy was performing at. I met some of his friends and all night he had his eyes on me, and was touching me constantly saying how much he liked me. He met my mom, and talked to my dad prior to this. Dropped me off later that night. I was a little confused and suspicious about this "date", but I was trying to stay positive. That night he texted me saying he had a wonderful time, that he would like to take me to again. 2 days later he took me to the beach at night. He brought red wine, snacks, etc. pretty romantic except it was very cold. Gave me his jacket, but it didn't suffice so I mentioned that I had a beach house a couple miles from where we were - he said he didn't mind if we went. I showed him my house...we ended up having sex, but after we talked about his family. Wasn't expecting him to tell me some of the things he did. Got personal. We cuddled for along time, then he dropped me off back at home since he had work the next morning, and I had a plane to catch. When I got back to school I didn't realize how much I missed and liked him. I did tell him before I left through text that I liked him and wished I lived at home, and his response was "if its meant to be we will cross paths :)" which was fine with me. But, the dynamics our of "friendship/ whatever" changed. We talked everyday whether texting or snap chatting. What threw me off is that most of the time it would get pretty sexual. I'm all for sex, but I was confused with our situation. I'm used to guys having little to no communication with me after sex...especially being many states away. He would ask about my day, call me babe, beautiful, say how much he missed me / can't wait to see me. etc. Well I found out I got accepted into Law School back at home, so I'm moving back this summer. Told him about it. He was VERY excited. Talked about future plans with me. What are the chances right? lol. if I would have known this I wouldn't have had sex with him. He's a catch. oh and he invited me to his ranch. (part of future summer plans) I said you sure? your parents are gonna be there, and he said I know?...so he wants me to meet his parents. Despite all of this, we had a conversation about sex. I asked if he had sex with anyone after me, and he said no. He asked me and I said no. He said we need to be honest with each other. I forgot how it got mentioned but we were talking about something (still in the same convo) and he said "if we are talking during the summer" which confused me because he talked about so many future events with me during the summer, and in my mind I thought we were talking as in getting to know each other. but I blew it off. He has given me reassurance. Two conversations that makes me think he wants something more. Me: You treat me like a piece of meat! him: if I was only interested in your physically, I would have gotten bored by now" (second conversation) him: "....not looking to hookup with randoms its just not fulfilling at all for me" me:"...i'm in the same boat. i knowI hooked up with you, but I really don't do that, that often. Makes me feel indifferent afterwards" him: " then don't treat it like a hookup. The first few chapters in a possibly great book" me:"I only did bc I didnt know what you considered it. Did want to be the crazy girl! But yes. A great book it can be. Him:"Glad were on the same page darlin :*" despite all of this I still have this weird gut feeling that he's using me? Most of our conversations stray off into the sexual world. Like I said I would be fine with it, if it were for all the other things he has told me that sound like a budding relationship. I go home this friday so I'm obviously going to see him, but I dunno if its worth it? Part of me is wanting to stay because I enjoy my time when I'm with him, but part of me sees nothing but red flags. One last thing, I deleted my tinder so idk if he still has his, but on FB he is always friends with a new girl? I know were not together, but it really bugs me. Makes me wonder if all he has told me / done he's doing it with someone else. Anyways, what do you think? Should I stay, go? Opinions? Am I being ridiculous? Stringing along? Never been in a situation like this, ever. I always thought relationships never start with hookups... Edited May 6, 2015 by locabs
smackie9 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 At the beginning it's always about sex.....it's not until you spend real time together that it may turn into a relationship....but you put the cart before the horse. Keeping your legs closed is key if you truly want to know a man's true intentions and since you didn't it's a crap shoot.
Author locabs Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 At the beginning it's always about sex.....it's not until you spend real time together that it may turn into a relationship....but you put the cart before the horse. Keeping your legs closed is key if you truly want to know a man's true intentions and since you didn't it's a crap shoot. So calling it quits would be ideal
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