MyFault69 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 So I been talking to this girl off Tinder and we hit it off talking alot on phone and text (I know maybe too much) and she couldn't take no more waiting so had me come over last night at midnight. We both said we liked each other and were going to wait and were both pretty exhausted so sex wasn't really an issue. When we woke up she had to go on her computer cause she's a teacher and had to do work so said I had to go. So I gave her a hug and kissed her on cheek. Should I contact her or wait for her? I found in previous experience the guy should always contact girl after spending night. Just not sure of her behaviour this morning.
Redhead14 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 So I been talking to this girl off Tinder and we hit it off talking alot on phone and text (I know maybe too much) and she couldn't take no more waiting so had me come over last night at midnight. We both said we liked each other and were going to wait and were both pretty exhausted so sex wasn't really an issue. When we woke up she had to go on her computer cause she's a teacher and had to do work so said I had to go. So I gave her a hug and kissed her on cheek. Should I contact her or wait for her? I found in previous experience the guy should always contact girl after spending night. Just not sure of her behaviour this morning. She had work to do. So her behavior was appropriate. She invited you to her house. The ball is in your court now. Call her and ask her for another date.
empresario Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Textbook over-complication. Just go with it. There is no template for relationships. Remember to consider her as well. Perhaps she's embarrassed because she thinks you expected her to put out? There's always 2 people to consider. At any rate, I've never met a woman that hates talking to someone they like. So contacting her has no downside.
Vintage79 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Oh my, she had to get up and do some work - that's super strange behavior, and shouldn't be tolerated - in particular from a woman. Seriously dude, if there's no more to it than what you described, she didn't act strange at all. If you want to see her again, just contact her. I don't think the time frame really matters, or for that matter, who contacts who (stop trying to play games). If you want to see her again, just contact her, let her know, and ask her out again...it's not hard. You're not going to come across as needy or desperate if you contact her the day after you see her, in particular if you spent the night together...
Author MyFault69 Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 Thanks sometimes over thinking overtake logic. I know I will contact her cause Its easier to do it then always wonder. Thats how I screwed up last relationship. I was afraid to text her and she was waiting then two weeks went by and when I finally saw her she said she thought I lost interest.
Mrin Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Okay this is my rule of thumb after dates, sleepovers or sex: as a man, you should definitely make contact a reasonable time thereafter and stay consistent. If you read any of these post date, sleepover, sex threads posted by women, you quickly see that there is a heightened sensitivity to change - particularly a drop off. Totally normal because they view these events as making them vulnerable to how the guy feels, perceives them or how they feel about him. Stay consistent or, if you fancy the lady, perhaps take communication up a tick or two. But whatever you do, don't let there be a pregnant pause.
Author MyFault69 Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 To end this topic she wrote back and said she thought she didn't feel a connection. I appreciate her honesty at least and I don't have to wonder. It was a first date only but made me remember don't spend too much time talking to a person before you meeting as you can get your hopes up.
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