Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 What do you consider sexy in texting another. What do you consider over the top and to much? My friend just sent her guy interest of one month ( nothing physical between them yet) a photo of her butt in a pair of boy shorts and captioned it " do these make my butt look big" ? She said he loved it!! I said well of course he did!!! But you are sure that's the message you want to send? I kind of think she went over board but she says not. What do you think?
Redhead14 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 What do you consider sexy in texting another. What do you consider over the top and to much? My friend just sent her guy interest of one month ( nothing physical between them yet) a photo of her butt in a pair of boy shorts and captioned it " do these make my butt look big" ? She said he loved it!! I said well of course he did!!! But you are sure that's the message you want to send? I kind of think she went over board but she says not. What do you think? If they've been dating for a bit and have become intimate, it'd maybe be cute at least. But until then, I wouldn't do anything like that. Save that kind of thing for when you've been intimate for a while and it's getting a little "old" let's say and things need to be spiced up. Before that, it is inappropriate and unnecessary. When your friend comes back to you complaining that this guy used her for sex and dumped her, tell her it's because her butt is too big. 2
jen1447 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 What is a "guy interest?" Have they been dating steadily for a month, or is he just a guy she's had her eye on or been teasing or whatever?
fitnessfan365 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Haha.. I'd probably have fun with it and tease her for being the "boy shorts" type. But I am a big fan of that type of playful interaction once I've already started sleeping with a woman. Helps to keep anticipation high. Although if sex hasn't entered into the picture yet and it happens right away, then it would probably turn me off a bit to be honest. I mean there is a big difference between a woman who wants to show herself off to a guy she is sleeping with versus one who is attention seeking and flashing it to every guy she meets.
Author Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 No, they have not been intimate yet. They have only been seeing eachother for about a month now. I was actually shocked when she told me as it's not in her normal character. I asked her what prompted her to do it and she said she was just turning up the heat a little. I thought hmmmm okay
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 If I were him, I wouldn't complain. I would probably get the vibe that she is DTF though.
Author Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 If I were him, I wouldn't complain. I would probably get the vibe that she is DTF though. That's kind of what I was worried about for her. She says it was just her being flirty and playful but I think it says a little more than that
Author Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 What is a "guy interest?" Have they been dating steadily for a month, or is he just a guy she's had her eye on or been teasing or whatever? They have been out a few times. Mostly text and talking via phone. Guy interest meaning she's been seeing and talking to him and is interested in persueing more with him in terms of a relationship.
jen1447 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 In that case, no big deal imo. A few dates is enough for a lot of people to have sex, so sending a halfway naughty pic seems pretty mild in comparison. I get a lot more extreme than that. 2
Author Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 Well it will be interesting to see how this plays out, if nothing else. Lol
fitnessfan365 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 I get a lot more extreme than that. No need to state the obvious woman. Your sexuality is apparent in your personality and how you carry yourself. But I continue to see why men shed tears. For me though, it depends on how long I've known a woman and if we've had sex yet. If we've had sex and she sends hot pics with caps, awesome. Mental simulation and anticipation are as hot as sex. But if a woman sends any type of sexual/suggestive pic before we meet (happens more often than people realize) or even after only a few dates, it turns me off. She doesn't know me well enough yet to be selective with her standards. I'd rather have a woman that is selective about letting her sexuality out for the right guy. Not every guy she dates in the beginning she's curious about.
Author Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 No need to state the obvious woman. Your sexuality is apparent in your personality and how you carry yourself. But I continue to see why men shed tears. For me though, it depends on how long I've known a woman and if we've had sex yet. If we've had sex and she sends hot pics with caps, awesome. Mental simulation and anticipation are as hot as sex. But if a woman sends any type of sexual/suggestive pic before we meet (happens more often than people realize) or even after only a few dates, it turns me off. She doesn't know me well enough yet to be selective with her standards. I'd rather have a woman that is selective about letting her sexuality out for the right guy. Not every guy she dates in the beginning she's curious about. Whoa hold up FF, I already said this isn't something she normally does and I was shocked when she told me. I think she really does have an intense interest in this guy and just got a little carried away with " turning up the heat".
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Sweetie, this as mild as they come if you ask me. And pretty common. She likes a guy. He likes her. They haven't had sex YET but clearly there is interest in something more. She's upping the ante. What's the problem? And why do you care so much what she's doing?
Redhead14 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Whoa hold up FF, I already said this isn't something she normally does and I was shocked when she told me. I think she really does have an intense interest in this guy and just got a little carried away with " turning up the heat". There's an art to "turning up the heat" and it's about timing and feeding it in spoonfuls. What she did was give it a shovelful and set it on fire. Tastefully, gradually give out those kinds of things. It builds anticipation and enhances intimacy. There's difference between being sensual and being sexual. It's the difference between a woman and a girl. If she were going to do it right, she would not send a picture, she would send sensual texts . . . "I've got my "boy shorts" on" Let his imagination do the work.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Whoa hold up FF, I already said this isn't something she normally does and I was shocked when she told me. I think she really does have an intense interest in this guy and just got a little carried away with " turning up the heat". I'm not saying she normally does it. I'm saying it's what would be going through my mind. I mean if a woman I barely know that I haven't had sex with yet is sending me stuff like that right away, it would be a turn off. BTW - Redhead GETS IT. There is pacing involved. Letting imagination build. Slight innuendo and desire under the surface gradually builds things up and makes it red hot. However, if a woman sends me a text saying she has boy shorts on that would do nothing for me..LOL I'd have more fun teasing her about it. "Is this your way of hinting that I should take you shopping for sexier underwear? ;-P"
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 That's kind of what I was worried about for her. She says it was just her being flirty and playful but I think it says a little more than that Well there's nothing wrong with being DTF if that's what her intentions are. She might be downplaying her intentions to you a bit though, she might not necessarily be clueless.
Author Cinnimon Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 Oh I definitely think she wants to have sex with him, but I also know she wants more than just sex. I'm just hoping that her " turning up the heat text " didn't just kill the "more" part for her.
MissBee Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 If we haven't had sex yet, no I probably will not let send you pictures of me in panties. It depends on what you want. If I want something serious with a guy I generally find that light flirting, some innuendos and so on keep the mystery and keep it exciting without quickly turning it into something sex-focused. My experience has been that if you start with too much sexual talk it is hard to scale back and it devolves into a primarily sexual thing verses allowing that to happen later. If you're my bf then I will sext you as much as I want. Or if you're just a sex buddy.
Sunfire73 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Agree with others, I sext only when my bf and I began to date exclusively to spice things up. I never sent suggestive pics before that. It sends conflicting messages at the start of what i want. I don't want to just play and seek attention. You can indicate interest in other ways like saying yes to dates, making an effort to look good, hugging, light touch, light flirting, being interested in knowing him more etc...
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