andie1969 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Started chatting with a guy on OKC this past Saturday, exchanged numbers and texted off and on throughout the day as well as on Sunday. Sunday afternoon he asked if I'd like to meet for drinks that evening and get to know each other so I did. We met at 7, stayed until 9:30 and left only because they were closing. He walked me to my car, gave me a nice, lingering hug and said we need to do this again. When I got home I sent a text saying thank you (he paid for everything) and that it was great to meet him. He replied saying how easy I was to talk to and we should go out again. I replied, definitely! He sent a smiley face back. That was it, nothing since but as of last night his OKC profile has been deleted. That seems weird!
PegNosePete Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 He obviously changed his mind. Sorry to say but if he really wanted to do it again he would've asked by now, especially after you gave him all the green lights.
Author andie1969 Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 That's fine, but why would someone totally delete their profile?? I've went on a number of first dates that didn't lead anywhere, but never deleted my profile because of it...plus if I'm now wowed by someone I want to be able to keep looking...
Toodaloo Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 He may be taking a break. I have deactivated my account twice now. Just because I need a break. I still have 3 people I am talking to and thats more than enough. I know if I leave my profile up I am going to get loads more and I do have work, friends, family etc that I want to keep up with. He may have met someone else and has taken it down. He may have had a nasty time with someone else he met. He may just not be all that into you and can't be bothered for some reason. The point is that you were positive and he has now gone "poof". You get used to poofters when you are internet dating... Ignore it and carry on. Good luck!
PegNosePete Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Maybe he went back to his ex. Or maybe his wife found his profile and made him delete it. Or maybe his prison guard found his profile and decided it's not a suitable activity for day release. My point is - who knows?? It doesn't pay to dwell on these things. There could be a million reasons and unfortunately you'll never find out.
Author andie1969 Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 Well, I do know he's not married...I know his last name and did some sleuthing lol... everything he told me about himself checked out.
Redhead14 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 That's fine, but why would someone totally delete their profile?? I've went on a number of first dates that didn't lead anywhere, but never deleted my profile because of it...plus if I'm now wowed by someone I want to be able to keep looking... He may be feeling discouraged because he's been dating a few from OLD and not having "success" in finding a match so taking a break. That is a more likely scenario. Or, he's been dating someone he has a higher interest in and decided to focus on her. That is part of the point of OLD. Meet a few and, find one you really like and then move forward with them.
badpenny Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Well, I do know he's not married...I know his last name and did some sleuthing lol... everything he told me about himself checked out. You know.... there's nothing stopping you form dropping him a text, suggesting you meet for a coffee, or go to a movie, a play, something..... Some guys may be painfully shy. You never know, it may have been an heroic effort for him to put himself out there.... Why pass up a possible opportunity wondering, when it's just as easy to send a text, saying - "last time was so nice, how about we get together again, and meet for *something*....?
soyou Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 The most important thing you need to know is - he's not that into you. If he were, he should have arranged the second date with you/or ask for your number after removing his profile. I've deactivated my profile plenty of times. I bet my ass that many guys were wondering whether they were not good enough for me or what went wrong (just like you). Often I deactivated/deleted my profile is because I was tired of seeing and talking with a lot of people and nobody has been able to get me interested. So I took a break to re-charge. Hope my insights have enlightened you a bit.
Author andie1969 Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 Thanks...yeah I've taken a break in the past too so I understand that. He does have my phone # so if he wanted to, he could reach me. 1
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