guild11 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I been dating some girl for a while now, I like her personality and obviously find her sexually attractive Everything is cool except one thing... She smokes and doesnt really adore healthy life style, me on the other hand I like sports and fitness. When we kissed it wasnt really plesant... Felt like having a burning ciggarete right at my face. I dont care if she doesnt like to workout but how do I explain her about smoking part ? I dont want to end up demanding stuff from her.
neowulf Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 I been dating some girl for a while now, I like her personality and obviously find her sexually attractive Everything is cool except one thing... She smokes and doesnt really adore healthy life style, me on the other hand I like sports and fitness. When we kissed it wasnt really plesant... Felt like having a burning ciggarete right at my face. I dont care if she doesnt like to workout but how do I explain her about smoking part ? I dont want to end up demanding stuff from her. I've been in this situation before. I believe in the end, it becomes a question of what you're chasing from the relationship. Clashes of lifestyle can become a huge deal down the road. If she's not interested in her health, or even open to the idea.. then chances are you're going to grow discouraged over the long run.
smackie9 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 This should have been a deal breaker from the start. When you date, you should stick to your expectations, not hope they will change for you or the sake of the relationship....not really fair to assume that don't you think?
neowulf Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 This should have been a deal breaker from the start. When you date, you should stick to your expectations, not hope they will change for you or the sake of the relationship....not really fair to assume that don't you think? I think inexperience, or perhaps loneliness often makes people compromise on elements they really shouldn't. Often people don't realise their deal breakers until they run clean into them.
Satu Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 If she doesn't take care of herself she's going to go downhill as time passes. That won't be nice to witness. Think seriously about this.
Vercetti Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 Yeah and the health nut can fall over dead in prime when out for a jog. If it's that much a turn off, well. Personally I would be worried over other things...there are mints / toothpaste / ect. Talk to her, she might be accommodating on some level. If doesn't work, she will at least have something to think about.
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