Do you think he's starting to at least test the waters for a relationship?

[playingatwork]

I've known this guy for almost a year now. When we first met things were hot and heavy. I asked him if all he wanted was a causal relationship and he said, "I don't know." He was still getting over his ex-girlfriend. He has told me how much he liked me but that he was "being stupid". This lasted for four months and then I asked him again. He said "I guess so." I broke up with him.

 

One month later he came back and said that yes, he wanted a relationship with me. I was pretty skeptical but I went along with it. That week that we got back together he had midterms (He's in grad school) and he was really stressed out at his job. Because I was so skeptical, and impatient, I put him on the spot and told him I wanted to talk. He blew me off and said "maybe next week". After all I been through with him I got even more pissed off and told him not to even bother and we broke up again. He didn't even try to fight me about it. That pissed me off so I sent him the really nasty email telling him what I thought of him. He sent a email back saying that he deserved it and that he was sorry. Then a week later he emails me that he was really upset about some personal stuff that was going with him and that he was sorry that he dragged me into it. He said he didn't want to keep talking to me and that we were beyond being in a relationship after all that happened. By this time I was cooled down so I apologized for all the stuff I said to him and told him that, if we had taken the time to get to know each other better things would have happened differently. I also told him that I didn't know if we could ever have a relationship again.

 

Two weeks later I got another email from him asking me for my phone number (He said he deleted it) and that he wanted to be "friendly". We've hung out once since then and in that encounter we ended up making out like teenagers. He was about to cook me dinner but it started getting late so he drove me home . At the end of the night he kissed me good night and texted me that he had a "really great time". Since then I've been getting random texts from him asking me how I am and what I'm doing. He's gone back to calling me sweetie, even though I mocked him about that in my nasty email.

 

This past weekend he texted me at 8 o'clock and told me that he was on his way home but that he could stop by for a little while if I wanted him to. I knew he was going to try to hook up with me but I wasn't going to do it, I still wanted to see him though so I said that it was fine. One minute later he texted me back and said "I should just go home." Like he stopped him self from doing something stupid. I asked him if he was okay because he sounded a little down and he said "I'm bad, you should realize that." He started apologizing for the "confusion" and in his apology he called me babe. He hasn't called me babe since the day he told me he liked me. I told him that he could talk to me about anything at any time, doesn't matter when, and he and he said I was too good to him.

 

Yesterday while we were both at work he sent me a "good morning sweetie" text. I haven't gotten one of those since we first started dating.

 

I'm not really sure what to do since I can't be sure that he's over his ex by now (but it has been a year) and I know that people in his emotional position can sometimes run hot and cold. ALL the men I spoke with says that he's trying to start off slow and build a friendship like I said in my email to him.

 

Do you think he's stating to at least test the waters for a relationship by starting off slow? Also, do you think he caught himself the other night because he knew he was going to mess things up?

[devilish innocent]

I would move on if I were you. He had his chance and was never that into you. You were a good bed partner for him, but he couldn't give any indication that you were more than that. Even a guy who was hung up on his ex, would have shown more enthusiasm if there was anything there. So what if he's gone back to texting you and calling you "sweetie"? That was what he did before, and it never amounted to anything. Forget him.