Is the show, "Married at First Sight" some kind of joke?

[Bobbi7]

Surely, these are regular people getting paid to do a fake wedding for a reality tv show? There is no way 2 strangers would walk down the aisle.

[craw]

Did this show get aired today? I will admit, I definitely watched an episode. I have no idea if this is fake or not, maybe it is and the contestants don't know about it.

 

I am fascinated to know how it turns out, I fell in love with someone in a brief amount of time. He lives in Europe. I'm wondering if it's infatuation or me looking at the fact the grass is greener on the other side, but if he had asked me to marry him, I would have said yes.

 

There was one couple who had a proper fight and he walked out of the restaurant. ooo not looking good at all.

[Phoe]

There is no way 2 strangers would walk down the aisle.

 

Sure they do. Arranged marriages happen all the time.

 

A childhood friend of mine entered an arranged marriage. She is quite happy.

[Bobbi7]

Sure they do. Arranged marriages happen all the time.

 

A childhood friend of mine entered an arranged marriage. She is quite happy.

 

How do couples in arranged marriages stay together? I'm just wondering..I mean, family chooses a spouse that they think is best for them? I keep thinking its like online dating..meeting someone in person for the first time, the feelings are there for the first few dates and later someone starts feeling indifferent and it ends there.

[SJS]

Surely, these are regular people getting paid to do a fake wedding for a reality tv show? There is no way 2 strangers would walk down the aisle.

You should watch the first episode. These are all people who want to be married but can't find mates so they get matched up with a similar background & personality, and get married. It is an arranged marriage set up by psychologists & relationship "experts".

 

 

I'm one or two episodes behind right now, but I think there's one couple that will actually make it beyond the "experiment" phase.

[autumnnight]

This is the country that spawned "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire." Nothing surprises me.

[BlueIris]

I love that show. I doubt that it’s a joke because the professionals have good reputations and the experiment, as they describe it, makes a lot of sense. To me at least. ha. They set out their hypotheses at the beginning and sure enough, some of them are being proven true in some circumstances, and the nuances and exceptions are interesting to see. It’s confirming a lot of what I believed about marriage and what it takes to make a good marriage.

 

Sure they do. Arranged marriages happen all the time.

 

A childhood friend of mine entered an arranged marriage. She is quite happy.

 

I’ve known people in arranged marriages, too, and they're happy too. I've seen the same even in marriages that weren’t formally arranged but were set-ups by family or friends.

[toolforgrowth]

I love that show. I doubt that it’s a joke because the professionals have good reputations and the experiment, as they describe it, makes a lot of sense. To me at least. ha. They set out their hypotheses at the beginning and sure enough, some of them are being proven true in some circumstances, and the nuances and exceptions are interesting to see. It’s confirming a lot of what I believed about marriage and what it takes to make a good marriage.

 

 

 

I’ve known people in arranged marriages, too, and they're happy too. I've seen the same even in marriages that weren’t formally arranged but were set-ups by family or friends.

 

My GF and I were set up by mutual friends. And we ended up being quite compatible. In fact, this is one of the most stable and drama free relationships I've ever had. We've been together since last September and we haven't had a single bona fide fight yet. We have similar interests, values, and quite a bit of chemistry.

 

I truly think she's the one. I could wake up next to this woman every day and be happy that she's there.

 

I'm not gonna touch American reality TV with a ten foot pole, however. It's the entertainment cesspool of our society.

[SolG]

They don't actually legally marry; you have to read the show's fine print to realise this. They have a marriage 'ceremony', and at the end of the 'trial period' that is the basis of the show the participants have the option of taking it further.

 

I haven't watched an episode yet, but I absolutely will because I'm curious as to how effective the pure science of compatibility is, and what other factors come into play.

[Gloria25]

Look, I'm on both sides of the fence...

 

While I agree that people should "date" 1 1/2 to 2 years to actually get to know the person before even proposing, I think that 1 1/2 to 2 years that some people take is wasted. I mean, they spend time together, but don't discuss the "practical" things that you need to raise/address in pre-marital counseling (i.e. religion, kids, schooling, budgeting).

 

Then, they marry and divorce over silly stuff - especially when most divorces are brought on by women (and women, IMO, are not rational most of the time). And/or they divorce cuz during their "dating" they did not know what the heck they were needing/looking for in a mate - and now are figuring out they really weren't a match.

 

At least with an arranged marriage, you put your cards on the table. You talk about all the "practical" things that get addressed in pre-marital counseling.

 

Also, actions create emotions...so, while people in an arranged marriage may not be all giddy about each other, their "actions" (the will to make the marriage work) produces the "feelings/emotions" of love and bonding.

 

Soo many people date and marry in the reverse. They date and marry based on "feeelings/emotions" and when things get dry, they fail to realize that they have to actually work (do "actions") to generate the feelings. So, they sit around awaiting a "feeeling" and get bored in the RL/marriage and start looking elsewhere.

 

In arranged marriages, usually the parents - who use their infinite wisdom - assist and/or pick the partner for you. But, it doesn't always work out well cuz some parents - like in third world countries and/or like from certain religions/cultures - are more worried about family image, living through their kids, and/or saving face...so, they set up their kids with jerks.

 

So, I can see where an arranged marriage can work - but it has to be done right. When people marry based on commonalities that are clear and discussed rather than feelings and/or looks - IMO, the marriage has a better chance of surviving.

 

In some religions/cultures, if the church hears of a guy/gal looking to marry, they assist in "picking" someone for them. They sit down and literally "talk" and figure out if they wanna go ahead with that. I ran across a young Indian couple like that. Others thought they were marrying just to get papers fixed, but no, I spoke to them and knew of their customs beforehand, so I knew they weren't faking it.

 

BTW, talk about this show being fake cuz of two people who barely know each other are "marrying/loving at first sight" all you want, but look at shows like the "Bachelor/Bachelorette"...you can't get more "arranged/fake" marriage than that.

[Gloria25]

My GF and I were set up by mutual friends. And we ended up being quite compatible. In fact, this is one of the most stable and drama free relationships I've ever had. We've been together since last September and we haven't had a single bona fide fight yet. We have similar interests, values, and quite a bit of chemistry.

 

I truly think she's the one. I could wake up next to this woman every day and be happy that she's there.

 

I'm not gonna touch American reality TV with a ten foot pole, however. It's the entertainment cesspool of our society.

 

And see, before OLD and/or people venturing on their own and trying to "vett" a person they meet somewhere, that's kinda how people really got to meet others.

 

When you got friends, family and/or people in your church/community that really know that person, it's kinda like a job referral. You got people who know you, know that person and when they set you two up, they already pretty much set you up with someone that they vetted and can vouch for

 

When you try to pick/meet someone on your own - it's kind of hard cuz you don't know that person from Adam, and have to spend time with them in hopes you can properly vett them and see where you go from there.