terlaughs Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Hi everyone.. So I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half... met him through a coworker.. super fun guy.. was a bit scattered making plans initially, but has been pretty good in recent times. I'd say we see each other once a week, so taking it slow.. sometimes twice. We both said we are looking for a relationship, as I brought that up early on thinking maybe he'd back off if that weren't the case for him... He's very sweet, but does have an immature side.. flaked on plans a couple times, says he wants to see me all the time but doesn't set it up, asked if I wanted to vacation with him before we even had a weekend date.. basically he gets very caught up in the moment.. which I have a hard time trusting because I want to know this isn't some fleeting thing. So, because of that I haven't felt comfortable sleeping with him yet... I'd say we've hung out a total of 10 times. He invited me over to his parents' place over the weekend to meet some friends.. As it turned out, I met his immediate family instead.. no friends there... Not sure if he's so caught up in the hype of this or if he is grounded in reality.. or maybe I'm overthinking! Thoughts!
GTR King Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 So are you happy with him? Are you ready to be exclusive?? Is he seeing anyone else?? How many times has he flaked on you? Did he tell you why he did it? if you don't trust him the you need to talk to him about it
Author terlaughs Posted May 5, 2015 Author Posted May 5, 2015 He flaked one time bc his dad had to go to hospital, which sounded legit. Another time was when I first met him.. he was out for a friend's birthday and excitedly extended the invite my way, and then had to backtrack.. nothing horrible. Since I mentioned it he has been good... A just not sure if our idea of a relationship is the same.. Will see what happens later... Would like to spend a night together and see how it goes...
GTR King Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 well you need to think are you both on the same wave length? Dose he want the same things as you? do you feel he is the right guy for you.... if you both want the same things then it will work if you don't then it probably won't work... Well those times he flaked on you don't sound to bad & he was happy to accept he flaked on you... if you have doubts about you 2 then you need to think about what you wanna do
Author terlaughs Posted May 5, 2015 Author Posted May 5, 2015 we'll looks like he prob won't spend the night tonight, said he forgot to pack clothes.. and seems to have plans for the upcoming weekend.. so not sure how promising that is! at least for what I'm looking for...
Vintage79 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Forgot to pack clothes? I'm not sure too many guys would turn down spending the night, for the first time, with a person they've been dating for 1.5 months because they didn't pack clothes...pretty lame excuse, but whatever - hopefully it works out, or you at least figure out if you're compatible. 1
Leigh 87 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 If you have to ask, he probably isn't that into you. Men who are smitten cannot help but declare it to the world. 1
Leigh 87 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Forgot to pack clothes? I'm not sure too many guys would turn down spending the night, for the first time, with a person they've been dating for 1.5 months because they didn't pack clothes...pretty lame excuse, but whatever - hopefully it works out, or you at least figure out if you're compatible. Forgetting to pack clothes... That's a good one. 1
smackie9 Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Hun this guy is a flake and you know it....he's just giving you crumbs when you are expecting the whole cake. If it doesn't feel right because it's not. Don't expect him to change, expect yourself to move on and find someone who is really into you. 2
Leigh 87 Posted May 6, 2015 Posted May 6, 2015 The latest guy I dated and subsequently broke up with cos he just wasn't comparable intellectually, was into me. He surprised me at work by visiting me..even though our date was for two days time, he couldn't wait to see me so surprised me... Twice he had done this. When a man is into you, they FIND excuses to see you. When a man is into you, they NEVER use " not packing clothes " as an excuse. Actually, when one guy that was into me forgot his work clothes, he TOOK me with him to HIS place instead of just coming and staying at mine. He went out of his way 45 mins just so spend the night with me. Without sex too since I was on my period and he knew I wasn't in the mood for anything sexual. Men who are thrilled to meet you ACT like it. There is no guessing. It's just a fact. I have had my best friends and father I hospital before; I found time to text the guy I was crushing on at the time. In fact, I couldn't wait to hear form him during the difficult time when I was so concerned about my friends and family who were in hospital.
Author terlaughs Posted May 6, 2015 Author Posted May 6, 2015 Well... he kept saying he forgot clothes and then said he may have something in his car... so after going back and forth about "if he should go out and get clothes" or "if he should check his car" he finally went and checked... turns out he had clothes and toiletries? so he stayed... (I have no idea if he packed and was feeling me out about a sleepover or not).. We had a great night... he didn't want me to feel pressured to have sex and wants me to wait until I'm comfortable.. but sill hasn't given me a heads up on hanging over the weekend.. I get people have lives but I do agree if you want to see someone you make it happen...
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