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So im driving my date back home from our second date, it was going pretty well lots of laughing very talkative and stuff, even said we should do it again thanking me for everything but along those last 5 mins she barely spoke at all. Now, full disclosure, Im not much of a talker myself, she was carrying most of the conversation and seemed fine with it, she knows how I am from before and still seems to have a good time with me. I just ask questions or point things out and off she goes and we playfully talk or the like. But those 5 minutes it as like she was different. She did say she was real tired, and had to work in like 7 hours, and was even the one who suggested to call it a night which I saw nothing wrong with.

 

Could it have been the tiredness? Or was she nervous or something, expecting me to make a move? We didn't get THAT close during the date so I just went for a long hug telling her we'll see each other soon. I dont want to force it either. What could have been going through her head?

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So im driving my date back home from our second date, it was going pretty well lots of laughing very talkative and stuff, even said we should do it again thanking me for everything but along those last 5 mins she barely spoke at all. Now, full disclosure, Im not much of a talker myself, she was carrying most of the conversation and seemed fine with it, she knows how I am from before and still seems to have a good time with me. I just ask questions or point things out and off she goes and we playfully talk or the like. But those 5 minutes it as like she was different. She did say she was real tired, and had to work in like 7 hours, and was even the one who suggested to call it a night which I saw nothing wrong with.

 

Could it have been the tiredness? Or was she nervous or something, expecting me to make a move? We didn't get THAT close during the date so I just went for a long hug telling her we'll see each other soon. I dont want to force it either. What could have been going through her head?

 

It doesn't matter. She said she was tired, that's what you have to go on. If you liked her enough, call her for another date. You're fretting over 5 minutes of quiet?

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If you don't kiss by date 3, she might loose interest.

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She did say she was real tired, and had to work in like 7 hours.

 

Take her words as meaning what they say.

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So im driving my date back home from our second date, it was going pretty well lots of laughing very talkative and stuff, even said we should do it again thanking me for everything but along those last 5 mins she barely spoke at all. Now, full disclosure, Im not much of a talker myself, she was carrying most of the conversation and seemed fine with it, she knows how I am from before and still seems to have a good time with me. I just ask questions or point things out and off she goes and we playfully talk or the like. But those 5 minutes it as like she was different. She did say she was real tired, and had to work in like 7 hours, and was even the one who suggested to call it a night which I saw nothing wrong with.

 

Could it have been the tiredness? Or was she nervous or something, expecting me to make a move? We didn't get THAT close during the date so I just went for a long hug telling her we'll see each other soon. I dont want to force it either. What could have been going through her head?

 

She may have become a bit nervous, about whether or not you were gonna kiss her...what it will be like, how will she react, etc.

 

Try not to read too much into it.

 

But DO kiss her on your next date!

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It doesn't matter. She said she was tired, that's what you have to go on. If you liked her enough, call her for another date. You're fretting over 5 minutes of quiet?

 

we have another date planned, yeah. I am fretting a bit but mainly cause I want to know if it was bad or not; Either way it wont stop me from the next date

 

If you don't kiss by date 3, she might loose interest.

 

why do u say that? Because of her silence or you're talking in general?

 

She may have become a bit nervous, about whether or not you were gonna kiss her...what it will be like, how will she react, etc.

 

Try not to read too much into it.

 

But DO kiss her on your next date!

 

haha I know I shouldn't. It just stroke me as odd! I was nervous too but my small talk of all night wasn't getting her to talk much this time.

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we have another date planned, yeah. I am fretting a bit but mainly cause I want to know if it was bad or not; Either way it wont stop me from the next date

 

 

 

why do u say that? Because of her silence or you're talking in general?

 

 

 

haha I know I shouldn't. It just stroke me as odd! I was nervous too but my small talk of all night wasn't getting her to talk much this time.

 

Stop over thinking and just take her out again .... and kiss her.

 

Otherwise, she won't think you're attracted to her, and proceed to catapult you right into the friendzone, if she hasn't already.

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why do u say that? Because of her silence or you're talking in general?

 

 

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- "kiss her by the third date" was a general comment.

 

Like Katie and redhead, I don't see a few moments of silence as a problem.

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Stop over thinking and just take her out again .... and kiss her.

 

Otherwise, she won't think you're attracted to her, and proceed to catapult you right into the friendzone, if she hasn't already.

 

- "kiss her by the third date" was a general comment.

 

Like Katie and redhead, I don't see a few moments of silence as a problem.

 

Thanks for the replies! You guys really think it's such a bad thing if we dont kiss by the third one? I mean if it all goes well and she gets quiet in the end like the 2nd one, am I supposed to go in for the kiss there regardless?? Yes, perhaps she wanted that in the 2nd one and that's why she was so quiet but usually I get a few signals or something. Unless that is a signal itself!

 

any tip?

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Let me put it to you this way, when the man who is now my husband had not kissed me on our 1st two dates, I went into the 3rd date fully prepared to dump him if he didn't make a move.

 

If she was tired, that is why she was quiet.

 

She also could have been quiet because she was anticipating the kiss & got nervous.

 

Do not drag this out. Do something romantic on your date. Go for a moonlit stroll. . . slow dance . . .do anything that calls for a kiss in the middle of the date rather than building up the expectation & giving her the chance to drain her energy by the end.

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You don't need to talk 24/7.

 

There are such things as comfortable silences. When I am comfortable with a man and like him, especially if we're in the car, we can have periods of lively conversation as well as some silences that are relaxed and not awkward but just part of the ebb and flow. So I wouldn't take 5 minutes of silence to mean catastrophe unless it felt awkward. Also, I don't suggest that if you feel awkward you still expect her to fill in the gaps. If she carries the conversation most times, you can at least fill in for 5 minutes.

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Let me put it to you this way, when the man who is now my husband had not kissed me on our 1st two dates, I went into the 3rd date fully prepared to dump him if he didn't make a move.

 

If she was tired, that is why she was quiet.

 

She also could have been quiet because she was anticipating the kiss & got nervous.

 

Do not drag this out. Do something romantic on your date. Go for a moonlit stroll. . . slow dance . . .do anything that calls for a kiss in the middle of the date rather than building up the expectation & giving her the chance to drain her energy by the end.

 

so I gotta assume your husband made the move on the 3rd date :p

 

u know, that is some great advice. The one time I didn't leave the kiss till the end of the night it felt the most natural ever. Will definitely try that, thanks!

 

You don't need to talk 24/7.

 

There are such things as comfortable silences. When I am comfortable with a man and like him, especially if we're in the car, we can have periods of lively conversation as well as some silences that are relaxed and not awkward but just part of the ebb and flow. So I wouldn't take 5 minutes of silence to mean catastrophe unless it felt awkward. Also, I don't suggest that if you feel awkward you still expect her to fill in the gaps. If she carries the conversation most times, you can at least fill in for 5 minutes.

 

Oh I agree!! And I would know, I love silence, plus this one didn't feel awkward at all! It's just that after having no silence at all it stroke me as odd, like perhaps she was expecting something yet wasn't showing it or was nervous or tired or wanted to leave i dunno..

 

and yes, I tried to fill in the gaps during that time but that's part of the thing she answered with yes and no, kept it short and distractedly with a few laughs here and there

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