What are the signs and reasons 2 exes hate each other?

[OK_computer]

In case you have to see your ex like I do, almost everyday. What are the major signs?

[PegNosePete]

I think this would very much depend on the details of the case in question. There is no universally generic answer here.

[OK_computer]

Well what about the signs? Like how do they act towards each other when they see each other?

 

Ignore? Nasty stares? Can you see it in their eyes.

I'm asking because I want to differentiate those emotions from things like.. sadness, regret, stuff like that.

[SycamoreCircle]

Your question is vaguely worded.

 

But I regard hate more as a reflection of the person "hating" than the person "hated." It reflects inadequacy and inability to communicate with oneself and with the other person.

 

Two exes who hate each other probably bear a lot of resentment at themselves for being unable to communicate.

[OK_computer]

Like if you and your ex have to see each other often. What the signs your guys really hate each other? How do you act towards one another?

 

And does hate eat away at people? I literally hate my ex and i see her everyday, and I try so hard to hide it, like as if im 'indifferent.' But I really do hate her.

 

like what are some gestures in case you see them in person?

 

If i see her, I:

1. take another route to walk

2. purposely walk further towards the opposite wall than normal

3. if we make eye contact I quickly look away

 

 

for her,

1. I can see it in her eyes she hates me. They open up real big and doesn't look away. etc.

[ToOldForThis]

I had and ex once that when we ended, we held each other, cried, hugged and kissed and then said goodbye. We were both sad over the loss, but knew we had grown apart and that we could either spend the next months/years not getting what we needed or let go. We became very good friends later on. Best break-up I ever had.

 

My current ex and I hate each other and it eats away at me. I do everything to avoid her and every time I see her it opens up wounds. Hate is anger, and this comes from all the disappointments that my life didn’t end up the way I thought it would….with her. She also cheated on me. When someone who supposedly loves you is so cowardly as to not either deal with their feelings or is so emotionally immature that they can only walk away with a re-bound in place, it causes ANGER.

 

It is a big slap of disrespect. It says to me about the ex “ I am too weak to express my needs, to be truthful that the relationship is not working, but I am comfortable enough to selfishly hold onto you until I find a replacement for the loneliness and attention, etc I need, I still love you but do not care enough about you to stop myself from cheating and hurting you.”

 

I think even thought the ex was the dumper, she is anger at me because in the end she was not getting what she needed and perhaps realized that if she had tried harder or communicated better or took the time to look at her part in the slow demise of us, perhaps we could have saved the relationship. Instead, she put it all on me and blamed me for her drifting into another’s arms. She made a choice to open herself up to letting another person into our relationship and still cannot take responsibility for that action.

 

Why is your ex angry with you?

[OK_computer]

I had and ex once that when we ended, we held each other, cried, hugged and kissed and then said goodbye. We were both sad over the loss, but knew we had grown apart and that we could either spend the next months/years not getting what we needed or let go. We became very good friends later on. Best break-up I ever had.

 

My current ex and I hate each other and it eats away at me. I do everything to avoid her and every time I see her it opens up wounds. Hate is anger, and this comes from all the disappointments that my life didn’t end up the way I thought it would….with her. She also cheated on me. When someone who supposedly loves you is so cowardly as to not either deal with their feelings or is so emotionally immature that they can only walk away with a re-bound in place, it causes ANGER.

 

It is a big slap of disrespect. It says to me about the ex “ I am too weak to express my needs, to be truthful that the relationship is not working, but I am comfortable enough to selfishly hold onto you until I find a replacement for the loneliness and attention, etc I need, I still love you but do not care enough about you to stop myself from cheating and hurting you.”

 

I think even thought the ex was the dumper, she is anger at me because in the end she was not getting what she needed and perhaps realized that if she had tried harder or communicated better or took the time to look at her part in the slow demise of us, perhaps we could have saved the relationship. Instead, she put it all on me and blamed me for her drifting into another’s arms. She made a choice to open herself up to letting another person into our relationship and still cannot take responsibility for that action.

 

Why is your ex angry with you?

 

 

My ex hates me, she hates the thought of me, maybe with a bit of missing me added to the mix. She hates me b/c I treated her badly, that I used to fight with her. She'd never communicate her problems with me, so we'd fight. She's insecure about her self, I was secure about her feelings towards me. I'd yell at her, make her cry, but I NEVER wanted her to get hurt. She'd never communicate.

 

Here are some reasons why she hates me:

1. I told her to F*** off once in heated argument when she called me a pessimst, strike 1. (completely recoverd from this one)

2. I called her a dumass

3. Once we got drunk and we got in a fight in front of her friends and I started breaking stuff

4. lots of text battles, me telling her to god die etc.

5. Fighting with her weekly, only to apologize to her a week later (eventually the on and off's got more distant apart- days-weeks-months-a year as of now)

6. I publically yelled at her once when she was already crying in our school cafeteria b/c I was so damn pissed with her behavior.

 

Why I hate her:

 

1. She used to talk **** about me to other boys when we were together

2. Used me as social validation in our school

3. Told all her friends that I was a psycho many many times, though when we'd talk about my anger, she'd be like "i love you, you're fine the way you are, you're not crazy)

4. She'd talk **** to my best friend and lead him on, just to make me jealous

5. She'd tell all her friends that I'm crazy and stay away from me, her friends used to really love me, until we both started fighting

6. She'd ignore me the day after we'd get back together, started resenting me

7. 4 years into this crap RS she'd bring stuff up from our 1st fight YEARS ago.

8. SLEPT with my worst enemy after breaking up with me.

9. Tried to get all my friends against me.

10. Now i'm estranged to her, and my best friend and her talk all the time, and he's no longer really a friend, and i'm sure they about me.

 

 

All this stuff within a 4 year period, a bit more. I HATE seeing her around the college, we make it so obvious we hate each other.

[stillafool]

Wow! It's pretty clear to me that you both hate each other. Too bad you two have to go to the same school. You would be better off not ever seeing each other again.

[elaine567]

My ex hates me, she hates the thought of me, maybe with a bit of missing me added to the mix. She hates me b/c I treated her badly, that I used to fight with her. She'd never communicate her problems with me, so we'd fight. She's insecure about her self, I was secure about her feelings towards me. I'd yell at her, make her cry, but I NEVER wanted her to get hurt. She'd never communicate.

 

Here are some reasons why she hates me:

1. I told her to F*** off once in heated argument when she called me a pessimst, strike 1. (completely recoverd from this one)

2. I called her a dumass

3. Once we got drunk and we got in a fight in front of her friends and I started breaking stuff

4. lots of text battles, me telling her to god die etc.

5. Fighting with her weekly, only to apologize to her a week later (eventually the on and off's got more distant apart- days-weeks-months-a year as of now)

6. I publically yelled at her once when she was already crying in our school cafeteria b/c I was so damn pissed with her behavior.

 

You need to grow up and not treat women so badly.

You apparently have anger issues, get them sorted out.

Remember you reap what you sow.

[OK_computer]

You need to grow up and not treat women so badly.

You apparently have anger issues, get them sorted out.

Remember you reap what you sow.

 

Am I the one who slept with her worst enemy? and lead her best friends on? Stole her best friend, and now we both talk **** about her?

[amaysngrace]

You should try to remember that there had to be at least some redeeming qualities about that person because something about them made you love them.

 

And if you can't see anything good anymore then just be glad that they've given you a barometer to gauge your future romances. And set the bar much much higher.

[Kamille]

So am I right to assume the reason you have to see each other everyday is because you're both still in school? The way you describe the relationship is very reminiscent of high school drama.

 

 

It's high school! Yes, you likely hate each other right now. So what? Summer is right around the corner and you will be able to put the whole thing behind you.

 

 

Until then, keep the drama to a minimum by focusing on other things: friends, hobbies, sports, music. Now is a good time to learn to deal with heartbreak with as little drama as possible.

[OK_computer]

So am I right to assume the reason you have to see each other everyday is because you're both still in school? The way you describe the relationship is very reminiscent of high school drama.

 

 

It's high school! Yes, you likely hate each other right now. So what? Summer is right around the corner and you will be able to put the whole thing behind you.

 

 

Until then, keep the drama to a minimum by focusing on other things: friends, hobbies, sports, music. Now is a good time to learn to deal with heartbreak with as little drama as possible.

 

I'm pretty sure it's mutually permanent. But i see what you're saying thanks

[NoLeafClover]

She doesn't seem like someone you would want to be with eitherway.

She has never been respectful to you if she is going around and talking crap about you and to start talking to your best friend?

Don't stress over about people that have no backbone and any dignity for themselves.

Go on with you life, if you have to see her act like she is not there. Who cares what she says or does. There are plenty of other girls that would be loyal to you, she is not the one.