egalew Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 Met someone six weeks ago. Enjoy his company and we have good sex; however, I feel he may be too emotionally needed. And I often fall into the pit of "helping people" and "playing therapist" which I'm really trying not to do. Two issues: He's a guy who has a lot of women friends. More women than men, in fact. Second, his divorce is not final yet, though they separated 4 years ago. She cheated on him, so he's still bitter about the situation. To compound matters, she is emotionally manipulative, and wants to do couple things with him (i.e., go to the movies, have dinner). He always refuses, but I can see how it creates this push-pull situation in the relationship. That said, he cannot stop talking about the ex and all the f-up things she does. I've listen a couple times, but it's getting repetitive. I also know that he had a bad breakup last summer with someone he cared about. He told me that he reached out to her a couple times in the last year and there was no response. Though this was before my time, I question it. I'm starting to question if I want to be in the middle of all this.
Gaeta Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 He comes across as emotionally weak to me. That is a lot of drama. Doesn't matter he talks good or bad about his ex, fact is he talks about her all the time means he's not in peace with it and has not moved on. THEN the story about this other woman he admits to YOU of all people that he has been trying to reach to her, as if you were his shrink. Chances are this woman broke up because of his unsolved past and his constant talking about his ex. That's really not the type of man I would want to be with and this type of complaining would turn me off a big time, he would never reach my bed.
soyou Posted May 5, 2015 Posted May 5, 2015 It looks like he's not over his ex yet to me. This guy needs to have time to digest all the emotions on his own. He's treating you as his rebound or emotional pillow. To be honest, if could never be with a guy with such a unresolved emotion like this, he could eventually drag you together into his negative energy/mood. RUNNNNNNNNN!
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